2024 Tus sau: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Kawg hloov kho: 2023-12-17 03:58
Koj xav tias leej twg yuav mus ntxiv: tus uas ntshai ua yuam kev, lossis tus uas tsuas nyiam kov yeej kev nyuaj thiab tsis ntshai ua yuam kev? Tom qab tag nrho, yog tias nws tsis ua hauj lwm tam sim no, ces nws yuav twv yuav raug hu ua haujlwm tom qab! Psychologists tau daws qhov teeb meem no ntev heev thiab twb tau txheeb xyuas ob hom kev xav.
Psychologist Carol Dweck tab tom tshawb fawb txog "kev xav loj hlob," lub tswv yim uas yog tias tib neeg tuaj yeem tsim lub peev xwm ntawm lawv lub hlwb los kawm thiab daws teeb meem. Nws ntseeg tias muaj ob hom kev xav: "tsis tau" thiab "tam sim no". Lawv qhov sib txawv tseem ceeb yog cov uas koom nrog thawj pab pawg ntseeg tias lawv tsuas tsis tau ua tiav, tab sis lawv yuav ua tiav tom qab! Pab pawg thib ob tau daig hauv kev txais khoom plig rau lawv txoj haujlwm "txoj cai ntawm no thiab tam sim no." Lawv muaj lub siab ruaj khov, lawv tsis muaj zog thiab khiav ntawm qhov yuam kev, vim lawv tsuas yog tsis xav koom nrog lawv.
Kuv tsuas yog xav nco ntsoov cov lus ntawm ib tus phab ej ntawm lub tas luav "Ice Age":
Tsis txhob hais tias: "Kuv ua yuam kev", zoo dua hais tias: "Wow, nws nthuav tawm li cas!"
Pom zoo:
Yuav ua li cas xaiv lub luag haujlwm tseem ceeb rau hnub kom ntes tau yam tseem ceeb tshaj plaws thiab txaus siab rau lub neej
Ib qho excerpt los ntawm phau ntawv "Nrhiav Lub Sijhawm" los ntawm Jake Knapp thiab John Zeratsky yuav qhia koj txog lub kaw lus uas yuav pab koj ua kom koj khiav qeeb me ntsis thiab txo lub suab nrov ntawm lub ntiaj teb ib puag ncig
Vim li cas thiaj tseem ceeb heev uas koj coj koj tus kheej tawm mus taug kev
Kev ntxhov siab poob qis, stagnation, tsis muaj lub tswv yim tshiab - taug kev pab kom rov zoo los ntawm cov teeb meem no. Peb yuav qhia koj tias vim li cas nws thiaj li muaj txiaj ntsig rau kev taug kev
Yuav ua li cas kom txhob chim siab thiab yog vim li cas nws tseem ceeb heev kom ua
Kev npau taws feem ntau ua rau ib tus neeg npau taws, tab sis kev zam txim rau ib tus neeg thiab tsis nco qab txog kev tsis sib haum xeeb tuaj yeem nyuaj. Yuav ua li cas kom tsis txhob npau taws thiab txhawj xeeb?
Lub cev zoo li lub tshuab: vim li cas nws tseem ceeb heev kom txav mus kom raug (thiab koj tsis ua)
Peb tab tom nruj thiab nruj, txawm tias ua haujlwm ib txwm tsis xav tau. Kawm seb kev tsav tsheb kev lag luam yog dab tsi thiab yuav ua li cas txo kev ntxhov siab
Yuav tsum tsis txhob hnov qab cov ntaub ntawv tseem ceeb thiab vim li cas kev pw tsaug zog tseem ceeb heev
Thaum tsaus ntuj, lub paj hlwb tau tshem tawm ntawm qhov tsis tseem ceeb ntawm kev xav, kev xav thiab xwm txheej, tab sis qee zaum nws ua rau kev xaiv tsis raug. Yuav ua li cas kom tsis nco qab cov ntaub ntawv tseem ceeb, peb yuav qhia rau koj hnub no