"Kuv hlub tsis tau leej twg": yuav ua li cas yog tias qhov no yog hais txog koj

2024 Tus sau: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Kawg hloov kho: 2023-12-17 03:58

Qee lub sij hawm peb xav txog kev hlub ntau dhau thiab tsis nco qab tias muaj lwm yam tseem ceeb hauv lub neej.

Kab lus no yog ib feem ntawm Txoj Haujlwm Ib-on-One. Hauv nws peb tham txog kev sib raug zoo nrog peb tus kheej thiab lwm tus. Yog tias lub ncauj lus nyob ze koj - qhia koj zaj dab neeg lossis kev xav hauv cov lus. Yuav tos!

Yog tias koj saib ib ncig, koj tau txais kev xav tias lub ntiaj teb yog obsessed nrog kev hlub. Ntawm cov ntxaij vab tshaus - melodramas thiab romantic comedies. Ntawm txoj kev, hauv cov tiaj ua si thiab cafes, muaj cov khub niam txiv sib hlub. Muaj ntau ntau cov ntawv hauv Is Taws Nem txog kev tsim kev sib raug zoo thiab khaws lawv li cas, nrhiav koj tus ntsuj plig li cas.

Ib tug neeg uas tsis tau muaj kev hlub - los yog xav tias nws tsis yog - tej zaum yuav xav tias nws yog "tsis ncaj ncees lawm" thiab categorically tsis haum rau lub ntiaj teb no kev hlub. Nov yog qee qhov kev xav los pab koj saib cov xwm txheej los ntawm lwm lub kaum sab xis.

1. Xav txog qhov koj txhais li cas los ntawm "kev hlub"

Los ntawm cov phau ntawv thiab cov yeeb yaj kiab, peb xav tias qhov no yog qhov kev xav muaj zog, tsis muaj kev ntxhov siab thiab ua rau peb lub neej tag nrho. Tias cov no yog kev ua yeeb yam tsis tu ncua thiab kua muag, npauj npaim npauj npaim hauv plab, kev mob siab rau kev kub ntxhov, kev xav tsis thoob lub siab thiab ua rau tus neeg hlub nyob hauv nruab nrab ntawm Lub Ntiaj Teb. Ntxiv mus, raws li txoj cai ntawm ib hom ntawv nyeem, tag nrho cov foob pob hluav taws no yuav tsum pib yuav luag tam sim ntawd tom qab ntsib nrog tib tus neeg lossis tus ntawd.

Ob peb tus neeg tso tawm cov dab neeg ntawm cov ntxaij vab tshaus loj hais txog yuav ua li cas ob tug neeg nyob ntsiag to thiab ntsiag to tuaj ua ke tawm tsam keeb kwm ntawm kev nyiam, tau sib yuav zoo li ntsiag to thiab nyob rau lawv tus kheej, tsis muaj kev sib cav ntawm kev khib thiab kev sib cav sib ceg, tsis muaj khaub ncaws los ntawm txhua qhov. lwm yam nyob rau hauv ib tug haum ntawm passion thiab tsis dov concerts nyob rau hauv lub qhov rais. Txawm hais tias hauv lub neej tiag tiag, qhov no yog qhov "dhuav" nws feem ntau tshwm sim.

Psychologists muaj ntau tshaj li tsis ntseeg txog kev hlub vwm, uas feem ntau yog romanticized, thiab ntseeg hais tias qhov no tsis yog kev hlub, tab sis ib tug txaus ntshai pathological mob uas ua rau kev quav tshuaj. Nws tsis yog ib qho kev xav, tab sis ib qho hormonal cocktail ntawm oxytocin, norepinephrine thiab dopamine uas ua rau peb nrhiav kev zoo siab, ua pob liab vog thiab nkag mus rau hauv kev sib raug zoo tsis zoo. Nws kuj provokes dab tsi peb noj rau kev hlub.

Nws muaj ntau hom ntawv thiab kev tshwm sim, thiab feem ntau ntawm lawv tsis yog txhua yam tiag tiag li hauv xinesmas thiab ntawv nyeem. Kev xav yuav tsis tuaj tam sim ntawd - tsuas yog ib feem peb ntawm cov neeg koom nrog tshawb fawb hais tias lawv tau ntsib kev hlub thaum pom thawj zaug. Thiab kev xav tuaj yeem ua rau mos thiab xis.

Yog tias hauv koj lub neej muaj ib tus neeg uas koj xav nyob ze thiab tsis muaj leej twg koj tu siab, nws yog qhov ua tau - qhov no yog kev hlub.

2. To taub qhov laj thawj

Yog tias koj tseem paub tseeb tias koj tsis tau hlub, thiab nws tsim txom koj, koj tuaj yeem txheeb xyuas vim li cas qhov no tshwm sim. Ntawm no yog cov kev xaiv tseem ceeb.

Qhov tseem ceeb dua

Lub sijhawm uas tsev neeg yuav tsum tau tsim kom muaj sia nyob, hmoov zoo, dhau lawm. Tam sim no ib tug neeg lub neej tsis txwv rau tsev neeg thiab cov me nyuam. Nws tuaj yeem nrhiav haujlwm, ua si kis las lossis muaj tswv yim, kawm ntau yam, mus ncig, ua phooj ywg, sib tham thiab lom zem.

Rau 60% ntawm cov tub ntxhais hluas Russians, cov khoom muaj nqis los ua ntej. Tsuas yog 5% ntawm cov neeg teb hais tias muaj ib tus khub mus tas li yog qhov tseem ceeb ntawm lub neej.

Yog tias koj feem ntau tsis khoom nrog kev ua haujlwm, kev ua haujlwm lossis kev txhim kho tus kheej, thiab kev hlub thiab kev sib raug zoo tseem tsis tau nthuav dav rau koj, tsis muaj dab tsi txawv ntawm qhov no thiab txhua yam nyob rau hauv kev txiav txim nrog koj. Txhua leej txhua tus muaj lawv tus kheej qhov tseem ceeb.

Ntshai ntawm kev sib raug zoo

Nws tuaj yeem tshwm sim los ntawm kev raug mob thaum yau los yog kev sib raug zoo tsis zoo nrog tus khub yav dhau los. Yog li ntawd, ib tug neeg koom nrog kev sib raug zoo nrog kev mob: kev tsis lees paub, kev ntxeev siab, kev xav tau "tau txais" kev hlub txhua lub sijhawm - thiab nws tsuas yog ntshai ntawm kev sib raug zoo, kaw, thawb tib neeg tawm ntawm nws. Psychologists hu rau tus mob no Symptoms trauma, los yog counterdependence.

Lub tswvyim hais ua dabneeg ntawm halves

Ib tug neeg tseem ntseeg hais tias qhov chaw ib tug neeg tshwj xeeb, destined rau nws los ntawm txoj hmoo, yog wandering thiab tos rau kev hlub thaum xub thawj pom thiab ib tug ua tiav coincidence ntawm kev xav, kev ntseeg, kev npaj. Hmoov tsis zoo, zaj dab neeg ntawm halves tsuas yog ib zaj dab neeg zoo nkauj xwb. Txoj hauv kev yuav ntsib ib tus neeg uas ua tau raws li qee yam kev cai yog qhov tsis txaus ntseeg. Thiab thaum koj npau suav ntawm kiv taub hau poob rau hauv kev hlub, koj yuav tsis pom ntau txoj kev xav thiab ploj mus ntawm tus khub ntxim nyiam.

Tsis muaj tus neeg zoo

Zoo siab cov dab neeg kev hlub thiab kev sib tham apps tsim qhov txaus ntshai illusion uas nws yooj yim mus nrhiav txoj cai match - cia li tuav koj txhais tes. Qhov tseeb, qhov no yog qhov teeb meem loj ntawm lub caij nyoog thiab koob hmoov: nws zoo li tus neeg koj yuav poob rau hauv kev hlub nrog tsuas yog tseem tsis tau tshwm sim hauv koj lub neej.

Kev puas siab puas ntsws

Yog tias ib tug neeg nyuaj siab, nws feem ntau nyuaj siab heev los nrhiav ob peb tug, poob rau hauv kev hlub, tsim kev sib raug zoo. Yog hais tias nws muaj tus mob narcissistic, nws tsuas yog tso nws tus kheej nyob hauv nruab nrab ntawm lub ntiaj teb, kom tsis muaj chaw rau lwm tus.

Yog hais tias ib tug neeg muaj ib tug dissocial cwm pwm tsis meej, nws muaj teeb meem nrog empathy thiab nws yuav nyuaj rau nws hlub ib tug neeg.

3. Tsis txhob ua kev hlub tseem ceeb heev

Muaj ib qho kev xav hais tias kev hlub yog qhov tseem ceeb hauv lub neej feem ntau thiab hauv kev sib raug zoo tshwj xeeb. Nws tsis zoo yog tias nws tsis nyob ntawd. Muaj - zoo heev, koj tuaj yeem so, thiab txhua yam yuav ua raws. Ib tug neeg uas ntseeg siab rau qhov no, tab sis tsis paub tias phau ntawv nyeem zoo siab nrog tsab ntawv loj, yuav xav tias tsis zoo siab. Los sis txawm rhuav tshem kev sib raug zoo nrog tus khub, tsuas yog vim tias lawv tsis muaj qhov ci ntsa iab, npauj npaim thiab lwm yam kev mob siab rau.

Txawm li cas los xij, qhov tseeb, lub hauv paus ntawm kev sib raug zoo thiab kev zoo siab tsis yog xwb, thiab qee zaum tsis muaj kev hlub ntau. Nws tseem muaj lwm cov khoom zoo:

• kev nyiam, kev xav thiab lub hom phiaj;
• kev hwm;
• muaj zog tus kheej ciam;
• kev ywj pheej los ntawm stereotypes;
• kev xav;
• txuas;
• muaj peev xwm sib txuas lus yam tsis muaj kev ua phem thiab toxicity;
• muaj peev xwm daws teeb meem tsis sib haum xeeb thiab hwm.

Tsis tas li ntawd, nws yog tag nrho cov no uas yuav pab kom txoj kev sib raug zoo, thaum kev hlub yog me ntsis dulled.

Txhua qhov kev sib yuav thib tsib hauv Russia tau xaus tsis yog rau kev hlub, tab sis rau kev suav. Qee zaum peb tab tom tham txog kev them nyiaj ntsuab, qee zaum hais txog kev ntxhov siab los ntawm cov txheeb ze.

Thiab qee zaum tag nrho cov ntsiab lus tsuas yog nrhiav ib tus neeg uas nws zoo, thiab nrog nws, tsis txhob tos kom poob rau hauv kev hlub. Thiab tus qauv no kiag li tsis ua rau koj txoj kev sib raug zoo tsis tiav thiab tsis ncaj ncees lawm. Tsis tas li ntawd, tsis muaj leej twg txwv tsis pub dhau lub sijhawm, kev xav yuav loj hlob ntawm koj thiab koj tus khub, thiab ntau zog thiab tob dua li kev hlub uas tsis muaj npe, uas lawv tham ntau heev.