"Kuv paub tias yuav yog li ntawd!": Vim li cas peb ntseeg tias peb tau pom qhov tshwm sim ntawm cov xwm txheej

2024 Tus sau: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Kawg hloov kho: 2023-12-17 03:58

Txhua yam zoo li pom tseeb tom qab qhov tau tshwm sim lawm.

Wb hais tias koj xav nug tus neeg koj nyiam tawm ntawm hnub. Yog nws tsis kam, koj yuav hais tias: “Kuv paub! Tom qab tag nrho, nws pom tseeb tias nws zoo dhau rau kuv. " Thiab yog tias koj pom zoo, hais tias: “Kuv paub! Tom qab tag nrho, nws meej meej nyiam kuv. " Dab tsi tau tshwm sim ib txwm zoo li pom tseeb thiab twv tau. Thiab qhov no yog kev ua haujlwm ntawm kev hloov pauv rov qab.

Cov ntaub ntawv tshiab distors peb nco

Qhov tshwm sim ntawm ib qho kev tshwm sim tsis tuaj yeem twv ua ntej. Peb tsuas tuaj yeem kwv yees. Tab sis tom qab ntawd, thaum tag nrho cov ntaub ntawv nyob rau hauv peb txhais tes, nws zoo nkaus li peb hais tias peb fores pom qhov tshwm sim ntawm rooj plaub. Thawj lub tswv yim yog distorted los ntawm ib tug fait accompli. Peb pib ntseeg tias peb xav li ntawd txij thaum pib. Qhov no yog ib qho kev cuam tshuam rov qab, lossis qhov yuam kev hindsight. …

Lub hlwb niaj hnub hloov kho cov ntaub ntawv peb muaj. Qhov no tiv thaiv kev nco overload thiab pab kos cov lus xaus. Hindsight yuam kev yog qhov tshwm sim ntawm qhov txheej txheem no.

Tib neeg pom nws ntev dhau los, tab sis tsuas yog kawm nws kom huv si hauv nruab nrab xyoo 1970s. Rau qhov no, tag nrho cov kev sim tau ua tiav. Yog li, nyob rau hauv ib qho ntawm lawv, cov neeg tuaj koom tau soj ntsuam qhov tshwm sim ntawm cov xwm txheej uas tuaj yeem tshwm sim tom qab kev tuaj ntsib ntawm Asmeskas tus thawj tswj hwm rau Beijing thiab Moscow. Thaum nws rov qab los, lawv raug nug kom nco qab qhov lawv xav tias muaj feem ntau ntawm thawj qhov kev xam phaj.

Thiab cov neeg koom tau xaiv cov kev xaiv uas tau tshwm sim tiag tiag - txawm tias lawv tau raug ntsuas txawv ua ntej tus thawj tswj hwm mus ncig.

Hauv plawv ntawm qhov kev xav yuam kev no yog peb qhov teebmeem uas cuam tshuam nrog ib leeg:

• Distorted nco("Kuv hais tias nws yuav yog li ntawd"). Peb qhov kev nco tsis zoo li qub. Pom ib tug fait accompli, peb pib xav tias peb yeej leaned rau nws.
• Cov nyhuv ntawm inevitability("Nws yuav tsum tshwm sim"). Peb tab tom sim nkag siab qhov tshwm sim, raws li cov ntaub ntawv uas peb muaj tam sim no. Thiab peb xaus lus: txij li qhov xwm txheej tau tshwm sim, nws txhais tau tias nws yog kev inevitable.
• Cov nyhuv Predictability(“Kuv paub txij thaum pib tias qhov no yuav tshwm sim”). Txij li thaum ib qho kev tshwm sim yog li "kev zam", ces nws yooj yim rau pom. Peb pib ntseeg tias peb tau ua nws.

Piv txwv li, koj tau saib cov yeeb yaj kiab thiab pom tias tus neeg tua neeg yog leej twg. Koj saib rov qab: koj nco qab zaj dab neeg twists thiab cov kab ntawm cov cim uas hinted ntawm qhov xaus. Nws tsis muaj teeb meem dab tsi koj tau txais thaum saib - tam sim no zoo li koj tias koj nkag siab txhua yam los ntawm qhov pib. Thiab nws tsis yog films xwb.

Thiab nws tuaj yeem ua rau muaj kev phom sij

Koj tsis tuaj yeem pom yav tom ntej. Tab sis tom qab ib tug series ntawm kev vam meej coincidence, koj muaj peev xwm ntseeg hais tias koj yuav ua tau. Yog tias koj qhov kev xav tau ua tiav, koj txoj kev ntseeg siab yuav nce ntxiv. Thiab nws sai sai hloov mus rau hauv kev ntseeg siab. Tau kawg, txij li thaum koj tau kwv yees cov xwm txheej yav dhau los, nws txhais tau tias koj tuaj yeem kwv yees yav tom ntej. Tam sim no koj vam khom ntau dhau ntawm koj qhov kev xav thiab ua qhov tsis tsim nyog txaus ntshai.

Thiab nws kuj zoo yog tias lawv tsuas cuam tshuam koj. Tab sis yog tias koj yog tus txiav txim lossis kws kho mob, koj qhov kev ua yuam kev tuaj yeem cuam tshuam rau lwm tus. Piv txwv li, kev hais lus tsis zoo rov qab tau tshwm sim los cuam tshuam rau kev txiav txim siab hauv txoj cai lij choj.

Nws kuj txwv tsis pub peb kawm ntawm peb qhov yuam kev. Yog tias koj xav tias koj paub qhov tshwm sim ntawm rooj plaub txij thaum pib, koj yuav tsis xav txog qhov laj thawj tiag tiag ntawm qhov tshwm sim.

"Nws yog qhov kev zam tsis tau," koj hais kom zais qhov tseeb ntawm koj tus kheej: koj tuaj yeem ua qee yam txawv.

Piv txwv li, koj tuaj rau kev xam phaj uas koj tsis tau npaj ua ntej. Koj tsis zoo ntawm kev teb cov lus nug, thiab txoj haujlwm mus rau lwm tus, txawm tias lawv tsis tsim nyog tshaj koj. Nws yog ib qho nyuaj los hais nrog lub tswv yim tias koj tus kheej yuav raug liam, yog li koj ntseeg koj tus kheej tias txhua yam tau txiav txim siab ua ntej.

Yuav ua li cas nrog qhov yuam kev no

Peb feem ntau muab cov ntaub ntawv uas tsis haum rau hauv peb daim duab ntawm lub ntiaj teb. Yuav kom kov yeej qhov no, xav txog yuav ua li cas lwm qhov xwm txheej tuaj yeem txhim kho. Sim piav qhia txog lwm yam kev xaiv rau txoj kev loj hlob ntawm cov xwm txheej - txoj kev no koj yuav pom qhov ua rau-thiab-kev sib raug zoo kom meej meej.

Khaws ib daim ntawv teev kev kwv yees. Sau rau hauv nws koj cov kev xav txog kev hloov pauv hauv kev nom kev tswv lub neej thiab kev ua haujlwm, hais txog koj qhov hnyav thiab kev noj qab haus huv, txog qhov kawg ntawm qhov koj nyiam TV series.

Muab cov ntaub ntawv no sib piv nrog rau cov xwm txheej tam sim no. Thiab koj yuav xav tsis thoob npaum li cas koj "yuav kwv yees" yav tom ntej.

Nyeem cov ntawv teev keeb kwm ntawm cov duab keeb kwm thiab sib piv lawv cov kev xav nrog cov xwm txheej tiag tiag. Ua tib zoo saib cov xov xwm ntawm tsib, kaum lossis nees nkaum xyoo dhau los. Thiab koj yuav to taub yuav ua li cas unpredictable lub neej tiag tiag.

Thiab ntawm chav kawm, nco koj tus kheej ntawm qhov yuam kev hindsight. Thaum koj xav qw "Kuv paub tias nws yuav yog li ntawd!" Ncua tseg. Thiab yog hais tias thaum muaj kev sib cav koj tus interlocutor thov tias nws yeej ib txwm yog, muab nws nyiam. Vim nws ntseeg tiag tiag vim txoj kev tsis ncaj ncees.