Yuav ua li cas kom muaj kev ntseeg siab ntawm theem

2024 Tus sau: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Kawg hloov kho: 2023-12-17 03:58

Kev sib tham, rooj sib tham, kev nthuav qhia thiab cov rooj sib tham sai lossis tom qab yuam kom peb hais lus rau pej xeem. Hauv kev tshaj tawm qhua, tus kws qhia ua lag luam thiab cov blogger budding qhia cov lus qhia txog yuav ua li cas nyiam cov theem thiab cuam tshuam nrog kev zoo siab ua ntej ua haujlwm.

Kev muaj peev xwm hais lus rau pej xeem yog ib qho txuj ci tsim nyog rau tus neeg ua lag luam. Kev sib tham, rooj sib tham, kev nthuav qhia lossis kev sib tham sai lossis tom qab raug yuam kom tawm mus rau pej xeem. Vim li cas qee tus neeg xav tias tsis muaj kev nyab xeeb thaum hais lus rau pej xeem? Ib phab ntsa ntawm complexes, ntshai thiab prejudices sawv ntawm lawv thiab theem.

Hauv kuv txoj haujlwm, kuv yuav tsum yaum cov neeg ua yeeb yam ntawm theem thiab kuv ntsib lawv qhov kev ntshai. Feem ntau nws yog kev ntshai ntawm kev luag nyav. Tib neeg kuj ntshai ntawm lub luag haujlwm, kev saib xyuas ntau dhau, kev rau txim thiab txawm tias qhov muag phem. Nyob rau tib lub sijhawm, lawv tuaj yeem hais tias "Kuv tsis ntshai, Kuv tsuas yog tsis nyiam rau theem!"

Cov laj thawj rau cov kev ntshai no feem ntau yog los ntawm thaum yau. Ib qho piv txwv yog high school. Kuv xav kom koj tsiv mus rau ib chav kawm tsis tu ncua. Koj pom dab tsi nyob ntawd? Tus tub-ntxhais kawm ntawv, tau ua tiav tus xibfwb txoj haujlwm, rub nws txhais tes nrog kev mob siab rau, tab sis tus kws qhia ntawv tsis hu nws mus rau lub blackboard. Tus kws qhia ntawv tsis txaus siab rau tus menyuam kawm ntawv no, nws xav hu rau tus uas tsis tau npaj rau daim ntawv tshaj tawm. Thaum ib tug tub kawm ntawv uas tsis tau npaj tau txais nws lub deuce, tus kws qhia ntawv yuav tau txais mus rau tus uas xav mus rau lub blackboard, thiab Vajtswv txwv qhov no "upstart" ua yuam kev. Tus kws qhia ntawv kuj tuaj yeem hais rau nws: "Cov me nyuam," kuv "yog tsab ntawv kawg ntawm cov tsiaj ntawv!"

Cov me nyuam yuav kawm li cas rau lawv tus kheej hauv zaj lus qhia no? Tsis txhob lean tawm, tab sis lean tawm - koj yuav khiav mus rau qhov teeb meem. Thaum neeg laus, zaj lus qhia no tau hloov pauv mus rau qhov tsis nyiam hais lus hauv pej xeem thiab rau txim rau cov neeg nyiam ntawm theem.

Tam sim no cia peb qhia meej tias qhov xwm txheej yog dab tsi. Qhov no puas yog lub podium nrog lub microphone nyob ib ncig ntawm cov neeg zaum? Thiab yog tias tsis muaj lub microphone yog theem? Thiab yog tias tsis muaj podium thiab tsis muaj microphone? Puas yog thaj chaw nyob ib puag ncig cov neeg zaum - puas yog theem? Puas yog lub platform nyob ib puag ncig uas tib neeg tsis zaum, tab sis sawv - nws puas tseem yog theem?

Cia kuv mus ntxiv. Qhov chaw nyob ib ncig ntawm uas tsuas muaj nees nkaum neeg - puas yog ib theem? Thiab tam sim no - mloog! Yog tias tsuas yog ib tus neeg saib tuaj, qhov chaw puas tseem yog theem? Qhov tseeb ntawm qhov teeb meem yog tias peb ua yeeb yam zoo li no txhua hnub thaum peb tham nrog menyuam yaus, koom tes, phooj ywg, txheeb ze, neeg ua haujlwm, thiab lwm yam. Peb ua nyob rau theem ntawm lub neej. Thiab peb twb muaj kev paub txog kev hais lus rau pej xeem - txhua yam uas tseem tshuav yog kom tsis txhob ntshai ntawm lawv thiab pib hlub.

Yuav ua li cas koj poob rau hauv kev hlub nrog tus tsis hlub? Koj puas tau pom tias peb feem ntau tsis nyiam qhov peb ua tsis tau? Thiab nws tsis ua haujlwm vim peb muaj kev xyaum me ntsis. Txhawm rau xyaum hais lus rau pej xeem, pib nrog cov neeg tuaj saib me me. Txaus siab rau txhua tus saib.

Cov neeg saib siab (thiab nruj) tshaj plaws yog menyuam yaus. Yog tias tus menyuam nkag siab koj cov lus thiab nws txaus siab, ces txhua tus neeg hauv cov neeg tuaj saib yuav nyiam nws. Thiab nws tsis yog hais txog theem pib ntawm kev hais lus, tab sis hais txog qhov tseeb thiab kev muaj sia nyob uas peb siv tsis tau thaum peb tham nrog menyuam yaus. Kuv thov kom coj cov qauv kev sib txuas lus no rau cov neeg tuaj saib ntawm txhua yam xwm txheej thiab hnub nyoog. Yog li cas koj thiaj li tshem tau koj txoj kev ntshai thiab kev ntxhov siab txog kev hais lus rau pej xeem?

Siv kev zoo siab ua ib qho cuab yeej

Kev zoo siab txawm tias muaj txiaj ntsig, nws pab txhawb nqa. Ua tsaug rau qhov kev zoo siab, me ntsis liab tshwm ntawm lub ntsej muag, uas kov cov neeg tuaj saib. Koj qhov kev zoo siab heev yuav ua rau muaj kev nkag siab ntawm tus neeg saib, txij li nws tus kheej ntshai ntawm qhov xwm txheej zoo li no. Thiab yog tias koj ua siab ncaj lees paub qhov no, ces koj tuaj yeem suav nrog kev txhawb nqa ntawm cov neeg tuaj saib. Tsuas yog tsis txhob hais cov ntsiab lus tsis zoo, tab sis qhia ib qho lus tso dag lossis qhia ib daim vis dis aus ntawm lub ncauj lus thiab tib lub sijhawm hais tias: "Thov saib thaum kuv cuam tshuam nrog kev zoo siab" lossis "Zoo, kuv yuav hais lus tso dag thaum kuv cuam tshuam nrog kev zoo siab.."

Pom koj qhov kev ua tau zoo

Tsis txhob sau cov ntsiab lus ntev ntawm koj cov lus, tab sis kos cov duab uas yuav qhia rau koj tias koj yuav tsum hais dab tsi. Cov txheej txheem no yuav ua rau muaj kev ntxhov siab tsawg, tsis txhob peering ntawm cov ntawv nyeem thiab tsis hnav tsom iav thaum ua yeeb yam.

Tsuas yog tham txog qhov koj paub

Xav txog qhov kev xeem hauv ib qho kev kawm uas koj nkag siab thiab nyiam: koj mus rau nws zoo li hnub so thiab tsis txhawj xeeb. Yog li mus rau qhov kev ua yeeb yam raws li hnub so, txij li lub ntsiab lus meej meej rau koj thiab koj nyiam. Thiab yog tias koj raug hais kom hais txog lub ntsiab lus uas koj tsis nkag siab ib yam dab tsi, ua siab ncaj txog nws thiab tsis kam lees. Qhov kev ua zoo li no yuav ua rau muaj kev hwm ntau dua li tus hais lus uas tsis to taub qhov nws hais txog.

Hais txhua feem ntawm kev hais lus nyob rau pem hauv ntej ntawm daim iav

Tom qab hais lus txhua ntu ntawm koj cov lus, koj yuav txiav txim siab nws lub sijhawm. Tau kaw koj tus kheej ntawm lub camcorder, cia ib tus neeg koj ntseeg tag nrho. Nug cov lus hais txog cov ntsiab lus ntawm koj cov lus hais, nrog rau kev piav tes piav taw, lub ntsej muag, thiab cov lus kab mob cab. Cia li tsis txhob overdo nws. Qhov no tsuas yog yuav tsum tau ua ob peb zaug. Txwv tsis pub, nyob rau theem, koj yuav tsis hais qhov koj tau npaj tseg, txij li lub siab subconscious yuav txiav txim siab tias koj twb tau hais lawm.

Ua kom sov ua ntej ua haujlwm

Ua siab ntev ncab koj ob txhais ceg - qhov no tuaj yeem ua tiav thaum zaum, maj mam nyem thiab rub koj txhais taw. Tsuas yog tsis txhob dhia lossis crouch, nws yuav ua rau koj ua tsis taus pa. Tsis txhob khiav tawm mus rau theem, taug kev ntsiag to. Ua ntej ua yeeb yam, hu nkauj nrog koj lub qhov ncauj kaw, zoo li humming ib zaj nkauj, qhov no yuav ua rau lub suab nrov.

Saib thiab tsis pom

Nws yog qhov zoo tshaj plaws los saib tus neeg saib hauv lub qhov muag thaum hais lus, tab sis kev paub tau pom tias qhov no ntshai tus neeg hais lus tshiab. Saib cov plaub hau ntawm cov neeg tuaj saib - lawv yuav xav tias koj tab tom saib lawv ncaj qha rau ntawm qhov muag. Thiab yog tias koj pom qhov tsis zoo saib, qhov no tsis txhais tau tias tus neeg mloog tsis nyiam zaj dab neeg. Tib neeg, thaum lawv ua tib zoo mloog, raws li txoj cai, tsis tswj lub ntsej muag.

Nyiam dag

Rov ua dua kaum zaug: "Kuv nyiam lub theem," thiab nws yuav hnov koj thiab teb zoo. Cov txheej txheem no ua haujlwm rau kuv thaum kuv ntshai. Thaum koj tham txog kev hlub, kev ntshai ploj mus. Nws tsis yooj yim sua kom hnov txog kev hlub thiab kev ntshai tib lub sijhawm. Sim nws!

Ib qho txuj ci khawv koob rau koj cov lus

Kev hlub. Txhob thuam. hwm. Tsis txhob txo hwj chim lossis tsa suab. Tsis txhob qhia, tab sis ua ke ua ib qho kev tshawb pom zoo. Hais qhov tseeb. Nqa kev xyiv fab. Ua kom txaus siab. Pab tau. Ua kom luv.