5 cov lus qhia uas siv los ntawm cov neeg siv los coj cov neeg los ntawm lub qhov ntswg

2024 Tus sau: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Kawg hloov kho: 2024-01-13 01:43

Ib qho excerpt los ntawm Nikita Nepryakhin phau ntawv "Kuv manipulate koj" txog cunning txoj kev manipulation thiab txoj kev los tawm tsam lawv.

1. Tus neeg phem - kev sib cav phem

"Tus neeg tuaj yeem sib cav dab tsi txog leej twg tsis tau hloov nws daim ntawv hla tebchaws? Dab tsi views ntawm architecture ib tug txiv neej tuaj yeem nthuav tawm yam tsis muaj npe? Thiab feem ntau, yuav ua li cas peb thiaj txaus siab rau qhov kev xav ntawm tus txiv neej bald nrog lub qhov ntswg? Cia nws xub kho nws lub qhov ntswg, loj hlob plaub hau, ces hais tawm! "- Nco ntsoov qhov kev tso dag nto moo ntawm Mikhail Zhvanetsky?

Manipulation "Tus neeg phem - kev sib cav tsis zoo" raug txo kom tsis lees paub ib tus neeg hauv txhua txoj kev, thiab los ntawm nws qhov kev tsis lees paub los qhia tias txhua yam nws hais (kev sib cav, kev sib cav, tswv yim, kev xav, kev xav) tsis muaj cai nyob.

Kev tsis lees paub tuaj yeem cuam tshuam txhua yam: ib tus neeg tuaj yeem ua tsis paub, tsis paub, tsis muaj peev xwm, thiab tsis muaj lub siab xav - feem ntau, txhua yam tuaj yeem pom hauv arsenal ntawm tus tswj hwm.

Ntawm chav kawm, nws ua txhaum, ua rau luag ntxub, tawm ntawm tus kheej, ua rau kev xav. Ib hom kev tawm tsam ntawm tus neeg nws tus kheej, thiab tsis yog raws li nws hais. Qhov tseem ceeb, tsis muaj dab tsi kiag li ntawm no.

• "Koj thawj zaug hnav zoo li tib neeg, thiab tom qab ntawd mus nrog koj lub tswv yim."
• "Thiab qhov no yog dab tsi tus neeg uas muaj ntaub ntawv ua txhaum cai qhia peb?"
• "Vim li cas koj mloog nws, nws txawm tswj kom ua yuam kev ntawm lo lus" daim ntawv cog lus "!"
• "Koj xub xaiv tus tshis tawm ntawm koj lub qhov ntswg, thiab qhia peb txhua tus ntawm no!"
• "Koj thawj zaug tuaj rau lub rooj sib tham, thiab tom qab ntawd sim ua hauv pem teb!"

Cov no yog tag nrho cov piv txwv ntawm manipulation "Tus neeg phem - kev sib cav phem". Nws zoo nkaus li kuv hais tias ntawm no yog lub npe qhia thiab nkag siab zoo: txhawm rau kom tsis lees paub qhov kev sib cav lossis kev xav ntawm tus neeg, koj tuaj yeem lees paub nws, thiab nws tsis muaj teeb meem li cas.

Feem ntau tus neeg raug tsim txom sim "ntaus nrog kev sib koom ua ke." Tab sis tsis yog qhov xwm txheej muaj txiaj ntsig zoo rau tus tswj hwm? Tom qab tag nrho, nws lub luag haujlwm tseem ceeb yog kom tau deb ntawm kev pom zoo rau cov lus ntawm tus neeg raug tsim txom. Kev tsis sib haum xeeb yog ib qho xwm txheej zoo sib xws rau tus neeg ua phem, nws zoo li tus ntses hauv dej nyob ntawd.

Kev tawm tsam

Ib tug yuav tiv thaiv li cas manipulation? Ua ntej ntawm tag nrho cov, tsis muaj retaliatory tawm tsam, kev insults, vim hais tias txwv tsis pub koj yuav ua raws li tus manipulator tsab ntawv.

Lub ntsiab tactic yog tsis quav ntsej lub vilification.

Koj yuav tsum tau nyob saum toj no, vim koj paub qhov tseeb ntawm koj tus nrog sib ntaus, vim li cas muab? Ntxiv mus, thaum koj paub txog qhov xwm txheej ntawm nws tus kheej thiab nkag siab txog lub hom phiaj kawg ntawm tus neeg ua phem, nws yooj yim dua rau kev tswj tus kheej: tsis muaj kev nkag siab yuam kev yuav ua li cas hauv qhov xwm txheej zoo li no.

Thiab tam sim no qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws: peb yuav tsum hloov qhov xwm txheej los ntawm qhov kev xav ntawm lub siab mus rau qhov kev xav txias. Cia peb xav txog seb puas muaj kev sib raug zoo ntawm qhov kuv hais thiab qhov kuv tus nrog sib cav liam kuv. Zoo, zoo, Kuv tsis paub yuav ua li cas, piv txwv li, hauv Excel, tab sis qhov no puas txhais tau tias kuv txoj kev npaj ua lag luam tsis raug?

Nyob rau hauv countering lub manipulation "Tus neeg phem - phem sib cav" tsuas yog yuav pab tau ib tug hloov mus rau ib tug logic channel, tsom xam ntawm qhov ua rau-thiab-zoo kev sib raug zoo thiab kev paub txog cov cai ntawm kev sib cav:

• • Kev xaiv 1: "Qhia rau kuv, qhov kev sib txuas ntawm kuv qhov kev paub ntawm lub khoos phis tawj thiab kuv lub phiaj xwm phiaj xwm phiaj xwm yog dab tsi?"
  • Kev xaiv 2: "Kuv puas nkag siab raug: yog tias kuv tam sim no txhais kuv cov peev nyiaj rau hauv Excel, koj yuav lees txais nws yam tsis muaj xwm txheej?"

2. Kev tsis sib haum xeeb ntawm cov lus nrog kev ua

Vim li cas koj ho xav tias kuv xaiv cov duab ntawm tus nyuj los piav qhia txog qhov kev coj ua tom ntej hu ua "Inconsistency of words with deeds"? Qhov no yog hais tias cov neeg muaj ib tug zoo kawg nkaus hais tias "Leej twg nyuj yuav moan …", uas piav txog lub essence ntawm no manipulation.

Raws li nyob rau hauv lub yav dhau los hom manipulation, ntawm no kev sib tham ntawm lub ntsiab lus yog qhov tseem ceeb hloov los ntawm kev sib tham ntawm tus nrog sib ntaus. Tsuas yog ua ntej ntawd muaj kev hais lus tsis txaus ntseeg, nyob rau hauv rooj plaub no tus manipulator qhia qhov tsis sib haum xeeb ntawm tus interlocutor cov lus sib cav nrog nws tus kheej tus cwj pwm, tshwm sim ntawm tus cwj pwm, lub hauv paus ntsiab lus ntawm lub neej thiab txoj haujlwm.

Cia peb hais tias koj tab tom tham txog kev ua tsov ua rog, thiab koj tus khub nug: "Koj yuav ua li cas yog tias koj tus kheej tsis tau koom nrog kev ua tsov ua rog?"

"Inconsistency ntawm cov lus nrog deeds" - ntau yam manipulations:

• "Koj qhia kuv li cas thaum koj tus kheej ua qhov no thaum koj tseem hluas?"
• "Koj nyob ntawm no hais txog kev zam niaj hnub, tab sis koj tus kheej hnav tawm, khau qias neeg ua hauv Suav teb! Tsis txhob ua rau kuv luag!"
• "Ntawm no koj tab tom tham txog tsis qhia kev ua phem rau tsiaj, tab sis koj tus kheej hnav lub tsho tawv!"
• "Koj yuav xub kawm lus Lavxias koj tus kheej yam tsis tau ua yuam kev, thiab tom qab ntawd ua cov lus hais txog yuav ua li cas rau kev ntxhov siab rau kuv!"

Piv txwv li, ib leej txiv qhia nws tus tub: “Kev haus luam yeeb ua rau muaj teeb meem! Nws yog teeb meem rau koj noj qab haus huv heev! Qhov no yog ib tug cwj pwm ntxim nyiam heev!” - thiab muab ntau cov lus sib cav. Raws li kev cai lij choj ntawm kev sib tham thiab kev sib tham, tus neeg sib tw yuav tsum tau muab kev tawm tsam rau txhua qhov kev sib cav, lossis - lwm qhov kev xaiv - los tiv thaiv nws txoj haujlwm. Tab sis qhov ntawd tsis yooj yim, txoj cai? Thiab nws tseem siv sijhawm.

Txawm tias cov menyuam yaus thiab cov tub ntxhais hluas tsis muaj kev sib txuas lus nplua nuj nkag siab tias nws yooj yim dua los tig lawv lub tshuab tawm tsam tus neeg sib tham nws tus kheej, yog li ntsuas qhov tseem ceeb ntawm nws cov lus. Yog li ntawd, nws tsis yog qhov xav tsis thoob tias tus tub, teb rau nws txiv cov lus, hnov zoo li no: "Vim li cas koj qhia kuv ntawm no thaum koj haus luam yeeb koj tus kheej?"

Kev tawm tsam

Muaj qhov tsim nyog xav tias tsis muaj cov lus teb tsim nyog tawm tsam qhov kev coj ua zoo li no. Tom qab tag nrho, txhua yam yog qhov tseeb: cov lus muaj qhov tsis sib xws nrog kev ua haujlwm. Txawm li cas los xij, kuv xav hais ntxiv ib zaug ntxiv: qhov no tsis yog qhov kev sib cav ntawm qhov zoo, tsis yog kev sib tham txog qhov teeb meem, tab sis ua rau tus neeg nws tus kheej, txawm hais tias qee zaum nws tsim nyog (tab sis, hmoov tsis, tsis yog feem ntau)..

Cia peb rov qab mus rau qhov xwm txheej ntawm leej txiv. Cov kev xaiv teb twg muaj nyob rau neutralize no tsis nco qab (tsis nco qab?) Manipulation? Puas yog tus txiv lees qhov tsis txaus ntseeg? Tsis yog, qhov no yuav txhais tau tias kev lees paub ntawm lwm tus yeej.

Thiab yuav ua li cas yog tias leej txiv pib ua si nrog nws tus tub thiab qhia tias nws mob npaum li cas, cov hniav lwj nws muaj dab tsi vim yog haus luam yeeb, nyob rau hauv qhov xwm txheej nws lub ntsws, thiab lwm yam? Kuv ntshai lub tswv yim no kuj tsis ncaj ncees lawm, vim nws tsuas yog discredits nws tus kheej ntau dua, tau poob nws txiv txoj cai. Kev thov kom leej txiv xav tau qhov zoo tshaj plaws rau nws tus tub yuav ua tiav tsis tiav rau tus tub hluas.

Tej zaum nws yuav raug hais tias, “Thaum koj loj hlob tuaj, ces koj yuav ntse! ", Lossis" Tsuav kuv txhawb koj siab, koj yuav mloog kuv! ", Lossis" Ib lo lus ntxiv, thiab koj yuav raug txim thiab koj yuav nyob hauv tsev rau ib lub lis piam! "? Tsis muaj teeb meem! Tseeb, nyob rau hauv teb rau manipulation, leej txiv nws tus kheej resorts rau aggression, kho ib tug kiag li tsis ncaj ncees lawm kev sib txuas qauv nyob rau hauv tus me nyuam lub siab.

Yog li koj ua dab tsi? Cia peb rov qab mus rau qhov manipulation scenario.

Lub tswv yim tseem ceeb tsis yog ua kom poob rau txoj kab xwm txheej, tab sis ua kom tawg. Peb tus yeeb ncuab tsis lees paub peb los ntawm kev ua kom pom tias peb cov lus tsis sib xws nrog peb txoj haujlwm. Nws lo rau peb ib yam ntawm "muab kos npe". Yog li, txhawm rau rhuav cov ntawv, peb yuav tsum txhais "tso" rau "ntxiv".

Kuv hu no logical reframing. Thiab feem ntau, rau cov lus teb uas muaj peev xwm thiab tsis sib haum xeeb, cov kab lus stereotyped "yooj yim vim" yuav pab tau, uas tam sim ntawd hloov peb sab tsis muaj zog rau hauv ib qho muaj zog, tam sim ntawd nce txoj cai hauv qhov teeb meem ntawm kev sib tham.

Saib seb qhov no tuaj yeem ua tau zoo li cas:

- Koj qhia kuv li cas yog koj haus luam yeeb?

- Yog li nws yog qhov tseeb vim kuv haus luam yeeb kuv tus kheej, kuv qhia koj qhov no! Tsis yog pog los ntawm lub qhov rooj tom ntej, tsis yog ib tug neeg sab nraud, tab sis kuv. Kuv paub qhov twg qhov no tuaj yeem ua tau!

Daim ntawv ceeb toom yuav ua li cas keeb kwm yav dhau thiab qib ntawm kev sib tham tau hloov pauv. Hloov chaw ntawm tus kheej-flagellation vim muaj kev xav txog kev hloov pauv, lossis tus qauv "yog vim li cas", tus kws tshaj lij txoj haujlwm tshwm thiab cov lus coj los ntawm lub ntsiab lus sib txawv.

3. Kev tsis paub

Tus manipulator yeej ib txwm ua si ntawm peb txoj hlua kev xav, qhov no yog qhov kuv hu ua lub hom phiaj ntawm kev tswj hwm. Thiab feem ntau txoj hlua no yog qhov ntshai ntawm qhov tshwm sim tsis paub, tsis paub, tsis muaj peev xwm lossis tsis paub.

Peb feem ntau ntshai lees tias peb tsis paub lossis tsis to taub ib yam dab tsi, peb txaj muag los qhia peb qhov tsis paub. Qhov no yog lub hauv paus ntawm manipulation, uas kuv hu yooj yim heev: "Ignorance."

Nov yog qee qhov piv txwv feem ntau ntawm xws li manipulation:

• "Txhua tus tau paub ntev ntev tias …"
• "Yog lawm, koj nyeem Wikipedia pib, txhua yam yog sau rau ntawd …"
• "Cov kev paub zoo tshaj plaws ntawm kev lag luam kev xav tau lees paub kuv lub tswv yim."
• "Koj tuaj yeem hais dab tsi txog qhov coefficient ntawm kev txiav txim siab? Ib? Koj pom, kuv yeej nyob ntawm no!”
• “Zoo, tej zaum koj tau nyeem phau ntawv no! Qhov no yog ib qho classic ntawm cov ntaub ntawv lag luam! Txhua tus neeg kawm ntawv nyeem nws! Nyob ntawd nws hais tib yam. Yog li kuv thov kom lees txais kuv qhov kev xav."
• "Kuv tsis paub meej tias qhov kev siv tau uas koj tau teev tseg tuaj yeem cuam tshuam, yog li koj yuav tau hloov qee qhov kev ntsuas hauv daim ntawv tshaj tawm."

Tej zaum koj twb tau nkag siab tias cov neeg kawm ntawv feem ntau siv cov kev coj ua zoo li no. Cov ntsiab lus nyuaj, cov lus Askiv, cov lus tsis txaus ntseeg, cov kab lus tshawb fawb, qhov tseeb uas nyuaj rau kev txheeb xyuas qhov no thiab tam sim no - qhov no yog qhov siv hauv Ignorance thaum lawv ua si ntawm kev tsis paub thiab kev txaj muag cuav.

Tus manipulator kuj ua rau tus neeg raug tsim txom ntseeg nws qhov zoo tshaj plaws, qhov no yog qhov nyuaj. Nyob rau tib lub sijhawm, tus tswj hwm feem ntau siv cov suab nrov thiab intonation, zoo li hais txog cov khoom tseem ceeb tshaj plaws.

Muaj qee lub sij hawm thaum tus tswj xyuas tsuas yog siv cov lus uas txawj ntse, tsis nkag siab lawv lub ntsiab lus. Qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws yog lub suab ntse, thiab tus neeg raug tsim txom yuav txaj muag los qhia nws qhov tsis paub - ces txhua yam yuav ua haujlwm! Qee zaum manipulators siv cov lus-amplifiers: "Txhua tus neeg paub", "Nws tau paub ntev lawm", "Qhov tseeb yog qhov paub zoo", "Txhua tus paub tseeb", "Txhua tus neeg nkag siab". Sib piv: "Lub tsheb zoo tshaj yog German" thiab "Txhua tus tau paub ntev tias lub tsheb zoo tshaj yog German." Tag nrho cov no kuj yog tshwm sim ntawm "Ignorance" manipulation.

Kev tawm tsam

Nws yog amazing yog vim li cas tib neeg thiaj li ntshai los qhia lawv ignorance? Puas yog ignorance ntawm qee lub sij hawm, postulate los yog scientific txoj kev xav ua cas txo lawv lub meej mom? Nws puas txaus ntshai heev yog tias koj tsis tau nyeem lossis hnov ib yam dab tsi? Puas yog nws txaus ntshai heev los qhia meej lub ntsiab lus thiab lub ntsiab lus, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog los ntawm tus tswj hwm nws tus kheej?

Tus manipulator tos dab tsi? Uas peb ntshai thiab qhia tsis tseeb txaj muag. Nws yog ib qho txaj muag los nug thiab qhia meej.

Tib txoj hauv kev los rhuav tshem qhov kev siv yooj yim no tsuas yog lees paub koj qhov tsis paub, nug thiab qhia meej. Yog tsis muaj self-flagellation, txaj muag, kiag li nyob ntsiag to thiab meej mom.

Thiab tom qab ntawd koj yuav pom tias tus tswj hwm nws tus kheej muaj lub tswv yim tsis meej thiab tsis meej txog qhov nws hais txog. Saib tus kws kho mob "tsis meej pem hauv nws tus kheej zaj lus tim khawv" yog qhov pom kev lom zem, vim tias nws tus kheej poob rau hauv ib lub cuab ntawm nws. Thiab qee zaum nws tuaj yeem xa mus rau qhov tsis muaj qhov tseeb, cov ntaub ntawv pov thawj tshawb fawb, yog li koj yuav tsum nug thiab qhia meej. Ntseeg kuv, koj lub koob npe nrov lossis txoj cai yuav tsis ploj mus.

4. Roj av

Ib zaug, Abraham Lincoln tau hais tias: "Ib tee ntawm zib mu yuav ntes yoov tshaj li ib nkas loos kua tsib." Yuav ua li cas ib tug capacious thiab apt soj ntsuam! Nws yog nyob rau ntawm qhov tshwm sim uas tom ntej no tsis yooj yim, tab sis ntau heev thiab, qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws, kev siv tau zoo hu ua "Greasing" yog raws li.

Lub ntsiab lub hom phiaj ntawm no manipulation yog ib tug tsis txaus siab rau peb saib iav heev, lub hom phiaj uas yog kom huab peb nco qab, mus dag ntxias peb muaj nuj nqis nrog rau cov kev pab los ntawm raug xaiv compliments.

• "Lub erudition ntawm kuv interlocutor yog dhau qhov tsis ntseeg, yog li kuv paub tseeb tias nws yuav tsis sib cav …"
• "Ib tug neeg tsis maj mam thiab tob txaus, tau kawg, nws yuav tsis txaus siab thiab nkag siab, tab sis ntawm no koj yog …"
• "Koj, ua ib tus kws tshaj lij hauv peb lub tuam txhab, yuav tsum …"
• "Raws li ib tug neeg kawm ntawv, koj yuav pom zoo tias …"
• "Peb paub zoo txog koj qhov kev ncaj ncees, kev ncaj ncees thiab kev qhib siab, yog li koj yuav twv yuav raug hu …"
• "Kuv tso siab rau koj txoj kev xav thiab kev txawj ntse thiab kuv paub tseeb tias koj yuav pom zoo nrog kuv …"

Dab tsi yog tag nrho cov piv txwv zoo li txawv no muaj qhov sib xws? Manipulation tsab ntawv.

Thov nco ntsoov tias hauv txhua qhov kev hloov pauv tau muab, tib lub tswv yim ntawm kev cuam tshuam tam sim no: qhuas + lus txib.

Ib txwm muaj kev qhuas ntawm no, uas, zoo li zib ntab, zoo siab rau peb pob ntseg: "ntse", "kawm", "subtle", "erudite", "siab ncaj", "decent". Tab sis ua tib zoo saib hais tias ntxiv cov lus txib ib txwm muab: "pom", "accept", "ua", "yuav tsis sib cav", "support".

Nws hloov tawm qhov kev sib txuas lus nthuav dav: yog tias kuv tsis ua raws li cov lus txib, ces kuv tsis ntse, tsis muaj kev kawm, tsis txawj ntse. Qhov no yog qhov ua kom yuam kev thiab tsab ntawv kab ntawm "Greasing" manipulation. Thiab txawm hais tias nws pom tseeb simplicity, feem ntau nws ua haujlwm flawlessly. Qhov muaj zog tus neeg raug tsim txom nws tus kheej thiab qhov tsis zoo, qhov kev ua haujlwm zoo no ua haujlwm zoo dua, txawm hais tias cov lus txib hauv tsab ntawv tuaj yeem ua tau zoo heev.

Kev tawm tsam

Neutralization ntawm no manipulation yog yooj yim raws li tsab ntawv kab ntawm cov "Greas" manipulation nws tus kheej.

Cov mis yog raws li nram no: lees txais kev qhuas thiab tsis lees txais pab pawg.

Piv txwv li

- Kuv tso siab rau koj txoj kev xav thiab kev txawj ntse thiab kuv paub tseeb tias koj yuav pom zoo nrog kuv …

- Ua tsaug rau koj kev txaus siab, tab sis kuv yuav tsum tsis pom zoo …

tuaj yeem txhim kho ntxiv

Ua tib zoo saib xyuas qhov tseeb tias koj yuav tsum lees txais qhov kev qhuas, txwv tsis pub lub cuab yeej cuab tam uas tsis zoo rau koj yuav slam. Ntawm chav kawm, koj yuav tsum tsis txhob pom ib tug manipulative ntsiab nyob rau hauv txhua txhua qhuas, txwv tsis pub koj yuav mus txog lub paranoid xeev. Tab sis thaum koj pom tias nrog kev pab ntawm flattery thiab qab ntxiag cov lus hais rau koj, lawv yog imperceptibly yuam ua dab tsi koj tsis xav ua, nws yog tsim nyog rhuav tshem qhov manipulation tam sim ntawd.

5. Tsis sib npaug

Hmoov tsis zoo, tus tswj hwm feem ntau siv rau kev ntxhov siab ntawm nws tus nrog sib ntaus kom ua tiav nws lub hom phiaj. Kev hais lus tsis txaus ntseeg rau tus neeg sib tham, lus tso dag, lus tso dag, hais lus tsis txaus ntseeg, kev thuam tsis ncaj, lus qhia tsis ncaj, kev lom zem boorish, sarcasm impermissible, lus nug absurd yog siv. Kuv hu qhov kev tswj hwm no "Unbalance", thiab nws lub npe hais rau nws tus kheej. Kev ua kom yuam kev yog qhov tsis zoo thiab tsis tuaj yeem, txawm li cas los xij yog dav thiab siv tau.

Lub luag haujlwm tseem ceeb ntawm tus tswj hwm yog ua txhua yam ua tau kom tsis txhob muaj kev sib cav sib ceg, coj nws tawm ntawm nws qhov kev nplij siab, thiab ua rau muaj kev ntxhov siab tsis tu ncua.

Nyob rau hauv lub siab lub ntsws, tus neeg raug tsim txom tej zaum yuav ua ib yam dab tsi tsis zoo-xav txog, spontaneous, unprofitable rau nws tus kheej nyob rau hauv lub tshav kub ntawm lub caij ntuj no - nws txhais tau tias manipulation tau ua hauj lwm. Qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws yog kom deb ntawm kev sib tham tsis xav tau thiab kev sib tham tsim nyog.

Manipulator tuaj yeem txhob txwm cuam tshuam lub npe lossis txoj haujlwm ntawm nws tus nrog sib ntaus: paub "Ivanov" es tsis txhob hwm "Sergei Vladimirovich", "tus kws tshaj lij" es tsis yog "tus xibfwb", "Ivan Petrovich … oh … uas yog, Peter Ivanovich, "tus thawj tswj hwm" tsis yog "tus thawj coj loj" …

Tus kws kho mob tuaj yeem ua qhov tsis zoo ntawm nws tus neeg raug tsim txom: ua raws li cov lus tsis zoo, qhov nplaig, hais lus yuam kev, hais lus tsis zoo. Lossis ntxig cov lus uas ua rau muaj kev tsis sib haum xeeb: “Au, koj ua rau kuv luag tam sim no! "," Koj puas yog tus kws tshaj lij ntawm qhov teeb meem no? "," Koj puas nrog koj tus poj niam tham li ntawd? ", "Auj kuv tus Vajtswv … Dab tsi ntxiv? "," Lwm yam ntse? "Thiab qhov zoo li. Tsis tsuas yog cov lus hais tau siv tau. Tus neeg aggressor tuaj yeem hloov mus rau kev tawm tswv yim tawm tswv yim, kev ua tsis zoo. Piv txwv li, tas li nias tus cwj mem, tsis teb cov lus hais ntawm tus neeg sib tw.

Txoj kev khaus khaus thiab kev xav tsis txaus ntseeg yog qhov kawg. Qhov tseem ceeb yog tas li.

Cov cuab yeej tseem ceeb ntawm kev tswj hwm "Unbalance" yog qhov rov ua dua ntawm qhov ua kom khaus. Drip-drip-drip.

Kev xyaum qhia tau hais tias qhov kev rov ua dua peb zaug ntawm cov khoom siv dag zog twb tau mus txog nws lub hom phiaj: tus neeg sib tw pib npau taws thiab poob nws npau taws. Ib qho kev xav yoj npog, rationality thiab txias vim li cas ploj mus rau hauv keeb kwm yav dhau.

Kev tawm tsam

Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom nkag siab tias txhua yam kev ua nyob rau hauv lub moj khaum ntawm "Unbalancing" yog ib txwm provocation, ib txwm ib tug pre-thought scenario. Drip-drip-drip. Nyob rau hauv tsis muaj cov ntaub ntawv yuav tsum tau succumb rau xws provocation. Koj tsis tuaj yeem coj nws mus rau lub siab, vim nws tsuas yog kev ua si ntawm ib feem ntawm tus tswj hwm. Koj yuav tsum paub nws thiab nyob saum nws. Tom qab tag nrho, yog tias lawv tswj kom "cua" koj, yog tias lawv tswj kom khob hauv av los ntawm koj txhais taw, koj poob. Qhov no txhais tau hais tias tus yeeb ncuab tau ua tiav nws lub hom phiaj.

Kev ua siab ntev thiab ua siab ntev yog daim ntawv qhia tseem ceeb rau kev tawm tsam. Yog li ntawd, koj tuaj yeem tsis quav ntsej txhua qhov kev sim ua kom koj lub siab sib haum xeeb. Koj nyob rau hauv kev tswj, tsis yog ib tug manipulator.

Lossis koj tuaj yeem hais ncaj nraim: “Kuv nkag siab qhov koj tab tom sim ua tam sim no. Koj xav muab kuv pov tseg. Hmoov tsis zoo, nws yuav tsis ua haujlwm. Yog li ntawd, kuv thov kom tsis txhob siv qhov no ntxiv lawm, tab sis ua kom muaj kev sib tham hauv kev tsim thiab hwm."

Nyob rau hauv cov ntaub ntawv no, peb nthuav tawm lub manipulation thiab txhais nws qhov zais cia rau hauv ib qho qhib.

Koj tuaj yeem nyeem txog lwm yam kev hloov pauv hauv phau ntawv "Kuv tswj koj. Cov txheej txheem ntawm kev tiv thaiv latent cawv "Nikita Nepryakhin.