Yuav ua li cas kom raug tsis kam tus menyuam yuav khoom

2024 Tus sau: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Kawg hloov kho: 2023-12-17 03:58

Whims thiab tantrums vim tsis kam yuav ib yam dab tsi tsis zoo li qub. Koj yuav ua li cas kom tsis txhob muaj cov xwm txheej zoo li no? Txoj kev coj tus cwj pwm zoo li cas yog tias koj yuav tsum tsis txhob hais rau koj tus menyuam? Koj yuav pom cov lus teb rau cov lus nug tseem ceeb no hauv peb tsab xov xwm.

"Muab! Yuav nws! Xav!" Txhua tus niam txiv tau ntsib cov lus no. Nws yog deb ntawm ib txwm ua tau thiab tsim nyog los teb tus menyuam qhov kev thov nrog kev tso cai. Los ntawm tsis kam, cov niam txiv tsim nyob rau hauv tus me nyuam ib lub tswv yim ntawm ciam teb, uas tsis yog tag nrho cov ntawm nws lub siab nyiam yuav ua tiav tam sim ntawd.

Peb niaj hnub no tus kws pab tswv yim, tus kws kho mob hlwb, tus kws kho mob hlwb, tus neeg ua haujlwm ntawm Lub Chaw Tshawb Fawb Txog Kev Puas Hlwb ntawm Lavxias Academy ntawm Kev Tshawb Fawb Txog Kev Kho Mob, hais txog qhov tseem ceeb ntawm qhov tsis lees paub qhov tseeb hauv kev yug menyuam.

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Tsim nyob rau hauv tus me nyuam ib lub tswv yim ntawm ciam teb, uas tsis yog tag nrho cov ntawm nws lub siab xav yuav ua kom tiav, koj tab tom ua ib qho tseem ceeb heev. Los ntawm cov menyuam yaus uas tau siv tam sim ntawd tau txais txhua yam uas lawv xav tau, lossis ua tiav lawv lub hom phiaj nrog kev pab cuam ntawm kev ua haujlwm, cov menyuam yaus loj hlob tuaj, leej twg yuav ntsib teeb meem. Txawm li cas los xij, nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom tsis txhob mus deb dhau, yog li ua tib zoo xav txog qhov chaw uas ciam teb rau koj, qhov koj npaj tau tso cai rau tus menyuam, thiab qhov koj xav tias yog qhov tsis lees paub thiab tsis yog.

Tab sis cov me nyuam tsis txaus siab rau qhov kev sib tw no. Nws tshwm sim tias kev tsov rog tiag tiag tshwm sim ntawm tus neeg laus thiab menyuam yaus, thiab qhov no tsis zoo rau txhua qhov tshwm sim. Koj tuaj yeem tsis kam tus menyuam li cas thiaj li txo tau qhov muaj feem cuam tshuam?

1. Hloov kev xav

Txoj kev yooj yim tshaj kom tsis txhob yuav khoom tsis tsim nyog yog kom cuam tshuam koj tus menyuam txoj kev xav. Nco koj tus me nyuam txog tej yam qab ntxiag thiab nthuav.

Kev saib xyuas ntawm cov menyuam yaus feem ntau hloov mus rau cov khoom ua si pheej yig dua.

Los ntawm kev thov rau cov khoom ua si ntxim nyiam, tus menyuam xav tau kev xav zoo. Muab cov kev xav no rau nws nrog kev pab ntawm pheej yig dua thiab muaj txiaj ntsig zoo rau txoj kev loj hlob. Tab sis tsis txhob siv cov lus qhia no ntau dhau, txwv tsis pub tus menyuam yuav tau siv rau qhov tseeb tias txhua qhov kev mus rau lub khw txhais tau tias yuav khoom.

2. ncua kev yuav khoom

Qhov no yog lwm cov txheej txheem siv uas tso cai rau koj tsis kam lees qhov kev thov, tab sis kuj tsis ua kom tiav.

Nws tsim nyog siv cov txheej txheem no tsuas yog tias koj yuav mus yuav cov khoom ua si no tiag tiag rau koj tus menyuam thaum lub sijhawm teem tseg. Ntau tus niam txiv tau cog lus yooj yim yam tsis xav khaws cia. Lawv vam tias tus me nyuam yuav tsis nco qab. Qhov no tsis yog lub tswv yim zoo tshaj plaws: cov menyuam yaus paub sai sai tias tus neeg laus tsuas yog dag rau lawv, thiab tsis txhob ntseeg tej lus thiab cov lus cog tseg.

3. Siv lub suab nrov

Yog li, nws tsis tuaj yeem cuam tshuam tus me nyuam, peb yuav tsum hais qhov ruaj khov "tsis muaj". Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb heev uas koj xaiv lub suab, raws li cov me nyuam tau zoo heev ntawm kev nyeem cov kev xav ntawm cov neeg laus. Ib qho kev tsis lees paub uas hais nyob rau hauv ib qho ingratiating thiab apologetic tone yuav tsis ua tiag tiag.

Ntawm qhov tsis sib xws, xav tias tsis muaj zog, tus menyuam yuav ua rau muaj kev ntxhov siab. Ntawm qhov tod tes, tus menyuam siv qhov hnyav dhau ntawm niam txiv lub suab ntawm nws tus kheej, nws xav tias tus neeg laus npau taws rau nws. Sib txuas lus nrog koj tus menyuam hauv lub suab ntsiag to. Nws yog qhov zoo yog tias koj muaj sijhawm los zaum, nyob rau tib theem nrog tus menyuam thiab qhia koj qhov "tsis muaj" qhov muag ntawm qhov muag.

4. Piav nrog lub qhov muag mus rau hnub nyoog

Tom qab qhov tsis lees paub tau hnov, nws yog ib qho tsim nyog los piav qhia nws. Tab sis cov lus piav qhia yuav tsum tau muab coj mus rau hauv tus account lub hnub nyoog ntawm tus me nyuam.

Cov menyuam kawm ntawv preschool tseem tsis tau nkag siab txog cov ntsiab lus ntawm cov khoom lag luam-nyiaj pauv, xws li cov lus "hloov dhau" lossis "tus nqi ntau dhau" yog cov lus khoob rau lawv. "Nws ntxov dhau rau koj" yuav tsis pom ib qho twg, txawm hais tias qhov ntxeev "koj ua dab tsi, qhov no yog rau menyuam yaus!" muaj peev xwm los ntxias tus me nyuam.

Tsis txhob piav qhia meej: es tsis txhob "tsis zoo" nws yog qhov zoo dua los hais tias "mob hniav". Thiab qhov kev paub daws teeb meem "kub dhau" tuaj yeem hloov nrog qee yam pob zeb:

5. Tsis kam los ntawm kev pom zoo

Cia peb hais tias tus menyuam tsis txaus siab rau qhov kev piav qhia thiab nws tseem tab tom thov rau cov khoom ua si uas xav tau. Psychologists qhia siv qhov "Yog, tab sis …" tactic. Ua ntej, koj rov hais dua rau tus menyuam nws cov lus, pom zoo nrog lawv, thiab rov hais dua koj cov lus sib cav.

Qhov kev ua si no tuaj yeem mus ntev, tab sis nrog kev ua siab ntev, kev yeej yuav yog rau cov neeg laus. Tus menyuam raug tso cai txais, lossis siv cov txheej txheem txwv.

6. Tsis txhob muab rau hauv, txawm tias koj tau hysterical

Paub tias nws tsis muaj kev sib cav, tus me nyuam siv lub cuab yeej kawg thiab muaj zog tshaj plaws - kua muag, ntuav ib txoj cai nyob hauv nruab nrab ntawm lub khw. Txhua tus kws tshawb fawb txog kev puas siab puas ntsws muaj kev sib koom siab ntawm no:

Tsis txhob cia koj tus menyuam tau li no.

Thaum cov niam txiv muab rau hauv thiab muab ib zaug, tantrums yuav rov qab ntau dua. Kuj tseem muaj ib qho lus qhia txog yuav ua li cas rau qhov no: coj tus menyuam hauv koj txhais tes thiab nqa nws mus.

Nqa mus rau lub tsheb, mus ncig ntawm lub ces kaum - nyob qhov twg, tsuas yog deb ntawm cov neeg tuaj saib. Qhia rau koj tus menyuam tias tus cwj pwm no tsis tsim nyog thiab koj yuav tsis tham kom txog thaum nws ua siab mos siab muag. Txwv tsis pub, tsis txhob hnov qab txhua txoj kev. Thaum xub thawj, lub suab qw yuav hnyav zuj zus. Tab sis yog tias koj tsis xyuam xim rau nws, tus me nyuam yuav tsum ua siab ntev. Ua hysterical, tus me nyuam kuj tsis muaj kev zoo siab, thiab yog tias koj tsis ua raws li tus cwj pwm no, nws yuav nres.

7. Ua tib zoo sib xws

Kev sib raug zoo yog ib lub hauv paus ntawm kev ua niam txiv. Yog tias hnub no "chupa-chups yog teeb meem", thiab tag kis "noj nws, koj yuav tsis poob qab," ces tus me nyuam yuav tsis kam lees qhov tseeb. Thiab txhua zaus nws yuav nyuaj dua los hais "tsis yog", vim tias tus menyuam paub tias qhov kev txwv no tuaj yeem raug tshem tawm.

Tab sis "raws li" tsis txhais hais tias "admant" kiag li. Ib tug niam txiv, zoo li txhua tus neeg, tuaj yeem hloov nws lub siab yog tias muaj laj thawj rau nws.

Piv txwv li, tus me nyuam tsis raug tso cai muaj tsiaj txhu vim tsis muaj lub luag haujlwm. Tom qab ntawd nws pib ua nws tus kheej ua homework, muab cov khoom pov tseg, quav cov khoom ua si, qhia tias nws tsis muaj lub luag haujlwm txhua. Nyob rau hauv rooj plaub no, tsis muaj dab tsi txhawj txog kev tshem tawm qhov txwv.

8. Pom zoo rau kev zam nrog txhua tus neeg hauv tsev neeg

Lwm lub ntsiab lus tseem ceeb heev. Yog tias txiv tsis kam yuav khoom ua si lossis khoom qab zib, niam, pog, yawg, phauj, txiv ntxawm, thiab lwm yam yuav tsum txhawb qhov tsis kam. Qhov kev sib txuas tsis muaj zog feem ntau yog cov neeg laus: cov niam tais yawm txiv tsis tuaj yeem tiv taus qhov kev thov ntawm lawv cov xeeb ntxwv. Cov menyuam yaus, ntawm qhov tod tes, kawm sai heev los siv qhov sib txawv ntawm cov neeg laus kom lawv zoo dua. Yog li ntawd, txoj cai ntawm cov niam txiv raug kev txom nyem, thiab tus me nyuam txoj kev xav ntawm ciam teb yog qhov muag plooj, uas tsis muaj txiaj ntsig rau nws.

9. Sim kom tus me nyuam pom zoo nrog qhov tsis kam

Kev yeem tsis kam lees tsis yog tsuas yog tsis suav nrog whims thiab thov, nws tsim thiab tswj tus kheej, qhov no yuav muaj txiaj ntsig zoo rau tus menyuam yav tom ntej. Yog hais tias ib tug me nyuam tau lwj, ces nws tus kheej yuav tsis zoo li muab dab tsi. Koj yuav tsum tsis txhob cia siab tias yuav tsis kam lees los ntawm cov menyuam kawm ntawv preschool, nws yooj yim dua rau kev cuam tshuam. Nrog tus menyuam loj, koj tuaj yeem tham txog tus nqi, hais txog koj cov ntsiab cai:

Tej zaum nws yog qhov zoo dua los ncua qhov kev sib tham no kom txog thaum tom qab, thaum koj twb tau tawm ntawm lub qhov rais nrog ib qho khoom txaus nyiam. Cov tub ntxhais kawm ntawv hluas twb muaj peev xwm tsis tsuas yog lees txais qhov tsis kam ntawm tus neeg laus, tab sis kuj pom zoo nrog nws.

Thaum koj hais tias tsis yog, nco ntsoov tias kev xav tau thiab tau txais yam koj xav tau tsis yog ib txwm rau menyuam yaus xwb, nws yog qhov zoo. Nws yuav ua li no tas nws lub neej. Thiab nws yuav ua raws nraim li nws tau kawm thaum yau. Yog li ntawd, tsis txhob maj hais tias "tsis yog", xav, tham nrog tus txiv neej me. Thiab yog tias koj txiav txim siab tsis kam, ces tsis kam raug.