21 phau ntawv hais txog kev tsim kev sib raug zoo nrog lwm tus

2024 Tus sau: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Kawg hloov kho: 2023-12-17 03:58

Kev tshuaj xyuas qhov ua yuam kev ntau, cov kev ua tau zoo thiab kev piav qhia meej ntawm cov lus nug nyuaj.

Phau ntawv hais txog kev sib raug zoo nrog tus neeg hlub

1. "Kev Tshawb Fawb", Aziz Ansari, Eric Klinenberg

Kev sib koom ua haujlwm ntawm tus neeg ua yeeb yam nto moo Aziz Ansari thiab sociologist Eric Klinenberg ntawm lub ntsiab lus ntawm kev tshawb nrhiav kev zoo siab tau ua rau qhov kev tshawb fawb no. Qhov tshwm sim yog ib qho kev qhia tsis txaus ntseeg rau cov neeg uas tab tom nrhiav kev hlub thiab xav kawm ntxiv txog kev sib raug zoo hauv ntiaj teb niaj hnub no.

2. "The Paradox of Passion", Dean Delice, Cassandra Phillips

Phau ntawv classic kev sib raug zoo psychology uas yuav coj romance thiab mob siab rau rov qab. Cov kws sau ntawv, kws kho kev puas siab puas ntsws thiab kws sau ntawv piav qhia vim li cas kev tsis sib haum xeeb tshwm sim, nws cuam tshuam li cas nrog cov neeg koom tes, thiab yuav ua li cas los tsim kom muaj kev sib txig sib luag thiab kev hlub.

3. "Tuav Kuv Tight" los ntawm Sue Johnson

Sue Johnson yog tus xibfwb ntawm Clinical Psychology thiab Tus Kws Kho Mob Tshwj Xeeb hauv Kev Mob Siab Siab (EFT). Los ntawm phau ntawv koj yuav kawm txog cov hauv paus ntsiab lus ntawm cov txheej txheem no, uas yuav pab txhim kho kev sib txuas lus hauv ob peb.

Xya qhov kev sib tham piav qhia txog lub sijhawm tseem ceeb uas cov neeg tsim kev sib raug zoo tau ntsib thiab cov lus qhia dab tsi yuav tsum tau kawm los ntawm kev kub ntxhov.

4. "Tsis nco qab kev hlub!", Michael Bennett, Sarah Bennett

Chartered psychologist Michael Bennett thiab screenwriter Sarah Bennett caw peb tawm ntawm peb txoj kev nrhiav kev hlub thiab kev mob siab rau. Hloov chaw, sim nrhiav ib tus neeg uas tuaj yeem pab koj txhim kho koj qhov zoo tshaj plaws. Thiab qhov no yog qhov twg tag nrho cov tricks ntawm kev tshaj lij headhunting tuaj ua ke.

Phau ntawv nthuav qhia txoj hauv kev ua haujlwm, nrog rau cov piv txwv nthuav los ntawm kev xyaum.

Phau Ntawv Txog Tsev Neeg

5. “Tsis txhob qw rau menyuam yaus! Yuav daws kev tsis sib haum xeeb nrog menyuam li cas thiab ua rau lawv mloog koj li cas”, Daniele Novara

Hauv kev sib raug zoo ntawm intrafamily, nws yog qhov nyuaj los ua yam tsis muaj kev tsis sib haum xeeb, tom qab ntawd kev sib cais tuaj yeem tshwm sim. Psychologist Daniele Novara piav qhia yuav ua li cas kawm paub daws cov xwm txheej no kom raug.

Cov lus qhia tswv yim muab rau hauv phau ntawv yuav pab, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog, txhawm rau txhim kho kev sib raug zoo nrog cov tub ntxhais hluas thiab qhia koj tswj koj tus kheej hauv lub sijhawm thaum ua siab ntev.

6. "Yuav ua li cas pab koj tus menyuam loj hlob tuaj", Robert Winston, Laverne Antrobus, Theresa Day thiab lwm tus

Tus me nyuam loj hlob tuaj, thiab cov txheej txheem no ua rau muaj kev ntshai ntawm ntau tus niam txiv. Phau ntawv piav qhia zoo heev no muaj cov lus piav qhia ntxaws txog cov theem ntawm kev loj hlob ntawm tus menyuam yaus, suav nrog cov kws kho mob muaj npe nrov thiab cov kws qhia ntawv.

Thiab nws yuav dhau los ua ib qho cuab yeej tseem ceeb rau cov neeg uas tsis paub yuav ua li cas pib kev sib tham nrog ib tug hluas thiab yuav ua li cas tham txog cov ntsiab lus nyuaj.

7. "Lub Emotional Intelligence of a Child" los ntawm John Gottman

John Gottman, tus xibfwb ntawm kev puas siab puas ntsws ntawm University of Washington, tau kawm cov niam txiv nrog menyuam yaus rau ntau tshaj 40 xyoo thiab paub txog qhov tseem ceeb ntawm kev kawm kom nkag siab txog tus menyuam txoj kev xav.

Cov txheej txheem ntawm kev txhim kho kev xav ntawm tus menyuam yaus uas tau piav qhia hauv phau ntawv yuav pab cov niam txiv muaj kev sib raug zoo nrog nws, nrog rau qhia nws txog kev tiv thaiv cov xwm txheej nyuaj.

8. "Cia Lawv Mus," Julie Lytcott-Haymes

Kev hlub thiab kev ntshai heev rau cov menyuam yaus cuam tshuam ob niam txiv thiab loj hlob ntawm tus kheej. Tus sau phau ntawv, tus hais lus TED thiab niam ntawm ob tug hluas, ua haujlwm rau 10 xyoo nrog cov tub ntxhais hluas hnub nyoog 17-20 xyoo.

Julie Lytcott-Haymes tau pom ntau zaus yuav ua li cas cov niam txiv "nyoob hoom qav taub" ua rau cov tub ntxhais hluas muaj lub cib fim loj hlob tuaj. Thiab yog li ntawd muaj lwm txoj kev ntawm kev kawm. Lawv siv yuav ua rau cov niam txiv muaj kev thaj yeeb nyab xeeb, thiab kev ywj pheej rau menyuam yaus.

Phau ntawv hais txog kev sib raug zoo nrog lwm tus

9. "Nyob rau tib lub Wavelength" los ntawm Amy Banks, Lee Hirschman

Neuroscience yog peb tus yuam sij rau kev sib raug zoo nrog lwm tus thiab peb lub peev xwm tag nrho. Cov kws sau phau ntawv muag khoom zoo tshaj plaws, kws kho mob hlwb Amy Banks thiab kws sau ntawv Lee Hirschman, tau ntseeg txog qhov no.

Lawv tham txog plaub txoj hauv kev neural tseem ceeb uas peb txoj kev sib raug zoo nrog lwm tus neeg nyob ncaj qha. Cov lus qhia tswv yim muab rau hauv phau ntawv yuav pab koj kom muaj kev thaj yeeb nyab xeeb thiab kev ntseeg tus kheej.

10. "Nws yog qhov zoo los tswj koj tus thawj coj," Bruce Tulgan

Bruce Tulgan, Tus Thawj Coj thiab Kev Tswj Xyuas Tus Kws Tshaj Lij Tshaj Lij Tshaj Lij Tshaj Lij Tshaj Lij Tshaj Lij Tshaj Lij Tshaj Lij Tshaj Lij Tshaj Lij, nthuav qhia cov phiaj xwm ib ntus los tsim kev sib raug zoo nrog koj tus thawj coj. Tom qab tag nrho, tus thawj coj tuaj yeem thiab txawm tias yuav tsum tau tswj hwm kom muaj kev sib koom tes zoo.

Phau ntawv yuav pab daws tau ntau yam teeb meem uas tshwm sim hauv cov koom haum ntawm txhua qib.

11. "Tus Cwj Pwm Ua Haujlwm Ua Ke," Twyla Tharp

Lub ntiaj teb nto moo American choreographer Twyla Tharp qhia nws tus kheej kev paub ntawm kev sib txuas lus nrog tib neeg. Siv ntau yam piv txwv los ntawm ntau yam kev ua ub no, nws qhia tau hais tias yuav tsim kev sib raug zoo thiab txhim kho kev ua haujlwm li cas hauv cov xwm txheej sib txawv. Tus sau kuj nthuav tawm cov lus zais ntawm kev sib raug zoo nrog cov neeg koom nrog lom.

12. “Tsis txhob quaj rau tus dev! Phau ntawv hais txog kev cob qhia tib neeg, tsiaj txhu, thiab koj tus kheej, "Karen Pryor

Yuav ua li cas kom cov me nyuam ua lawv cov homework rau lawv tus kheej, qhia ib tug txiv kom muab cov thom khwm tso rau hauv lub pob tawb thiab tau txais nyiaj ntxiv ntawm kev ua haujlwm txhua lub hlis twg? Karen Pryor, tus kws tshawb fawb thiab kws qhia tshwj xeeb, paub cov lus teb.

Phau ntawv nthuav tawm cov kev tawm dag zog qub nrog kev pab ntawm txhua tus tuaj yeem hloov kev sib raug zoo nrog lwm tus. Lwm qhov zoo ntawm cov khoom muag zoo tshaj plaws suav nrog cov lus yooj yim thiab yooj yim to taub piv txwv.

13. “Science of communication. Yuav ua li cas nyeem cov kev xav, nkag siab txog kev xav thiab nrhiav cov lus nrog tib neeg", Vanessa van Edwards

Vanessa van Edwards sau phau ntawv, ua kev cob qhia thiab kawm txog kev ua ntawm tib neeg. Nws paub tias peb tus cwj pwm coj li cas pab tau lossis tiv thaiv peb kom tsis txhob muaj kev ntseeg siab rau lwm tus.

Tus sau muab tswv yim zoo rau txhua hnub: yuav ua li cas pib kev sib tham ntawm ib tog twg, yuav ua li cas nrhiav tau ib hom lus nrog cov npoj yaig, yuav ua li cas sib txuas lus nrog cov thawj coj thiab cov neeg hlub.

14. “Ua ntej hais tsis tau. Secrets of Professional Negotiators", Jim Camp

Jim Camp tsim nws tus kheej txoj kev sib tham zoo, uas tam sim no tau siv los ntawm ntau txhiab tus neeg thoob ntiaj teb. Nws paub tseeb hais tias "tsis yog" raug cai kom lwm tus ua raws li koj xav kom lawv ua.

Thiab tus kws sau ntawv tseem yuav qhia koj tias yuav sib tham li cas thiaj li ua tiav cov hom phiaj xav tau, thiab tiv thaiv cov kev sib tham ntawm cov neeg sib tham.

Phau ntawv hais txog kev sib raug zoo nrog tus kheej

15. "Deal With Yourself … and Other Worthy Propents" los ntawm William Urey

Hauv lub neej, peb feem ntau cuam tshuam los ntawm peb tus kheej cov kev xav rau qee yam kev xav. William Urey, co-founder ntawm Harvard Negotiation Project, muab txoj hauv kev ua haujlwm kom ncav cuag kev sib haum xeeb nrog tus kheej. Kev paub txog cov txuj ci no yuav pab tshem tawm kev tsis sib haum xeeb sab hauv thiab txhim kho kev sib raug zoo nrog lwm tus neeg.

16. "Tsis muaj leej twg to taub kuv," Heidi Grant Halvorson

Kev zoo siab yog thaum koj nkag siab. Tab sis feem ntau peb txhais lus yuam kev rau lwm tus neeg thiab txiav txim siab yuam kev tias tsis muaj leej twg nyiam. Tus kws kho mob hlwb thiab tus txhawb siab Heidi Grant Halvorson qhia cov lus zais ntawm lub neej zoo thiab yuav ua li cas hloov lub cev lub cev los txhim kho tus cwj pwm ntawm lwm tus.

17. "Emotional Intelligence" los ntawm Daniel Goleman

Renowned American psychologist thiab science neeg sau xov xwm Daniel Goleman ntseeg hais tias peb txoj kev xav tseem ceeb npaum li cas tshaj peb xav. Tus uas paub tswj hwm lawv ua tiav ntau dua hauv lub neej thiab feem ntau ua tiav zoo dua li tus uas coj los ntawm kev tu siab, npau taws thiab ntshai.

Tus sau cov lus qhia tswv yim, piv txwv ntawm nws lub neej thiab keeb kwm ntawm cov neeg nto moo yuav pab hloov nws tus kheej.

18. "Yuav Ua Li Cas Nrog Leej Twg" los ntawm Mark Rhodes

Tus kws tshaj lij thiab tus kws qhia ua lag luam Mark Rhodes qhia txog kev paub ntau yam nrog ntau tus neeg. Nws ntseeg tias nws yog ib qho uas yuav tsum ntshai ntawm kev cuam tshuam nrog lwm tus. Thiab nws hloov tawm tias qhov kev ntshai no yooj yim heev los kov yeej yog tias koj paub qee qhov kev dag ntxias.

Tus sau phau ntawv yuav qhia koj yuav ua li cas nrog cov xwm txheej nyuaj thiab tham nrog txhua tus.

Phau ntawv hais txog kev sib raug zoo tsis zoo

19. “Kev lees paub. Hais tawm. Hais tsis tau. Teem ciam teb. Tau txais kev tswj hwm, "Patrick King

Patrick King, tus sau phau ntawv thiab tus kws qhia kev lag luam, qhia koj txog kev tiv thaiv koj cov kev txaus siab thiab tiv thaiv koj ciam teb. Thiab qhov no yog cov lus qhia tiag tiag rau ib tus neeg uas raug kev txom nyem los ntawm kev ua haujlwm ntawm tus kheej.

Tus kws sau ntawv tseem muab cov neeg nyeem ib qho tshwj xeeb 27-hnub txoj kev npaj rau kev txhawb nqa xwm txheej ceev ntawm lawv tus kheej ciam teb.

20. "Nws nyuaj," Harriet Lörner

Kev npau taws, kev poob siab, kev npau taws - cov kev xav no ua rau lub neej ntawm ob niam txiv. Harriet Lörner, Ph. D. thiab tus kws kho mob hlwb, piav qhia yuav ua li cas kom rov zoo siab thiab txaus siab rau kev sib txuas lus. Nws cov lus qhia yuav pab koj tau txais kev txawj ntse thiab kev ntseeg tus kheej.

Nrog kev pab ntawm tus sau, koj tseem yuav nkag siab tias yog vim li cas nws tseem ceeb heev kom muaj peev xwm mloog tau thiab mloog thiab qhov peb cov neeg hlub xav tau tiag tiag los ntawm peb.

21. “Nyob ntawm tus nuv. Yuav ua li cas rhuav lub voj voog ntawm kev sib raug zoo tsis zoo”, Aud Dalsegg, Inger Wesse

Kev tsim txom hauv tsev, kev thab plaub hauv tsev kawm ntawv lossis tom haujlwm - los ntawm phau ntawv no koj yuav pom tias leej twg yuav tsum liam thiab yuav ua li cas yog tias txhua yam no tshwm sim rau koj.

Tus kws sau xov xwm Aud Dalsegg thiab tus kws lij choj Inger Wesse piav qhia txog ntau hom kev puas siab puas ntsws ntawm tus kheej thiab cov txheej txheem ntawm kev kuaj xyuas lawv, nrog rau tam sim no txoj hauv kev ua haujlwm kom tawm ntawm cov xwm txheej nyuaj.