8 lub tswv yim rau cov niam txiv uas xav coj tus menyuam kom haum

2024 Tus sau: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Kawg hloov kho: 2023-12-17 03:58

Cov tswv yim no yuav qhia nws txog kev tiv thaiv kev ntxhov siab, tsis txhob ntshai ntawm kev tsis lees paub, thiab pom tias muaj teeb meem cuam tshuam ib ntus hauv txoj kev.

Psychotherapist Amy Maureen, tus sau ntawm 13 Yam Uas Muaj Kev Tiv Thaiv Tus Kheej, qhia qhia cov me nyuam paub daws cov teeb meem me me kom cov neeg laus muaj teeb meem loj dua los ntawm lawv.

1. Tsis txhob tiv thaiv koj tus menyuam los ntawm kev nyuaj

Yog tias koj pheej tiv thaiv nws txhua lub sijhawm, nws yuav tsis kawm ua nws tus kheej. Kev nyuaj thiab kev ua haujlwm nyuaj yog ib feem ntawm lub neej, thiab qee zaum nyuaj heev. Cov menyuam yaus uas nkag siab qhov no hloov tau zoo rau txhua qhov xwm txheej.

Maureen hais tias "Txoj hauj lwm ntawm cov niam txiv yog los pab lawv tus menyuam txhim kho kev puas siab puas ntsws," Maureen hais. "Thiab txhawb nws thaum nws muaj teeb meem nrog qee yam."

2. Kawm kom pom qhov tsis lees paub kom raug

Kev soj ntsuam nrog lo lus "tsis yog" yog ib qho txuj ci tseem ceeb heev, thiab Maureen muab piv txwv txog thaum nws tuaj yeem tsim kho. Xav txog tias koj tus menyuam tsis nyob hauv pab pawg kis las. Lawm, koj yuav xav hu rau tus kws qhia thiab sim ua haujlwm tawm. Tab sis tsis txhob maj. Kev tsis kam yuav pab koj tus menyuam kawm zaj lus qhia lub neej zoo: kev ua tsis tiav tsis yog qhov kawg. Thiab nws muaj lub zog txaus los tiv thaiv qhov tsis ua haujlwm, thiab tom qab qhov ua tsis tiav nws yeej ib txwm muaj kev xaiv.

3. Tsis pom zoo rau tus neeg raug tsim txom txoj kev xav

Maureen piav qhia tias "Thaum menyuam yaus tham txog lawv cov teeb meem, lawv feem ntau nyiam hloov lub luag haujlwm rau lwm tus," Maureen piav qhia. "Piv txwv li, ib tug me nyuam sau qhov kev xeem tsis zoo thiab hais tias tus kws qhia ntawv tsis to taub cov khoom." Tau kawg, cov niam txiv yuav xav txhawb nqa lawv tus menyuam: coj nws sab, ua kom qhov xwm txheej ncaj ncees. Tab sis qhov no yog ib tug txaus ntshai endeavor.

Nws yog ib qho tsim nyog yuav tsum piav qhia rau tus menyuam tias lub neej tsis ncaj ncees, tab sis nws muaj lub zog txaus los lees txais. Cov niam txiv sim kho txhua yam ntxiv dag zog rau cov menyuam yaus lub tswv yim tias lawv raug kho tsis raug, tias lawv yog cov neeg raug tsim txom. Thiab yog tias qhov no rov ua dua thiab ntau dua, kev kawm tsis muaj peev xwm tuaj yeem txhim kho. Txhob cia qhov no tshwm sim.

4. Pab kev xav thiab muab cov txuj ci tsim nyog

Yog tias koj tus menyuam xav tau qee qhov kev txawj lossis cov cuab yeej los daws qhov teeb meem ntawm lawv tus kheej, sim muab rau lawv. Tsis txhob cia koj cov menyuam tsis muaj kev txhawb nqa thiab tsis txhob quav ntsej qhov tseeb tias lawv nyuaj siab. Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom muaj kev sib npaug ntawm no: qhia tias koj nkag siab tus me nyuam thiab ua siab ntev rau nws, tab sis rov qab mus rau lub sijhawm thiab muab sijhawm rau nws los daws qhov teeb meem ntawm nws tus kheej.

Nws kuj tseem ceeb heev uas yuav tau tham nrog me nyuam txog lawv txoj kev xav. Qhov no yuav tsim kom muaj kev sib tham txog kev xav hauv cov neeg laus. Thiab ib qho ntxiv, nws yuav pab kom kov yeej cov teeb meem yooj yim dua.

5. Piav qhia txog kev xav

Thaum menyuam tsis tuaj yeem tham txog lawv txoj kev xav, lawv feem ntau coj lawv tawm ntawm lwm tus. Yog li ntawd, lawv loj hlob mus rau cov neeg uas tsis paub yuav ua li cas nrog lawv txoj kev npau taws lossis kev tu siab. Pab cov me nyuam zoo siab hais txog lawv lub siab lub ntsws kom nrov nrov. Qhov no yuav qhia lawv kom xav txog qhov ua rau lawv tsis xis nyob, thiab nws yooj yim dua rau zam lawv.

Hauv lwm lo lus, yog tias tus menyuam tuaj yeem hais tias, "Kuv npau taws," lawv tsis tshua muaj peev xwm ncaws koj lub ntsej muag kom pom nws.

6. Kawm kom ua siab ntev yam tsis muaj kev pab

Piv txwv li, tsim "cov khoom siv kev nplij siab" nrog cov nplooj ntawv xim thiab cov yas thiab nco ntsoov koj tus menyuam thaum nws chim siab. Qhov no yuav txhawb lub tswv yim tias peb tus kheej yog lub luag haujlwm rau peb txoj kev xav thiab peb tus kheej tuaj yeem ua rau peb tus kheej. Thiab nws yuav maj mam ntxiv dag zog rau lub peev xwm los daws cov xwm txheej nyuaj.

7. lees koj tus kheej yuam kev. Thiab kho lawv

Kev ua niam txiv yuam kev yog lub sijhawm los qhia koj tus menyuam tias peb txhua tus ua yuam kev. Leej twg tuaj yeem npau taws thiab qw rau ib tus neeg lossis tsis nco qab txog qhov tseem ceeb. Cov niam txiv yuav tsum ua piv txwv tias yuav lees txais qhov ua yuam kev thiab kho li cas. Qhov no yuav ua rau tus menyuam nkag siab tias txhua yam tuaj yeem ua tau zoo dua yog tias koj ncaj ncees tham txog koj qhov yuam kev thiab sim kho qhov koj tau ua.

8. Qhuas tsis yog rau qhov tshwm sim, tab sis rau lub dag zog

Lawv feem ntau hais tias, "Koj tau qhab nia zoo vim koj ntse." Txawm hais tias nws yuav zoo dua hais tias: "Koj tau qhab nia zoo vim koj kawm nyuaj." Thawj qhov kev xaiv tuaj yeem ua rau muaj qhov tsis zoo rau lub sijhawm ntev.

"Yog tias koj qhuas tsuas yog cov txiaj ntsig, cov menyuam yaus pib dag, xav tias qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws yog tau txais A, txawm li cas los xij," Maureen piav qhia. - Thiab peb yuav tsum tau qhia lawv tias nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb uas yuav tsum ua siab ncaj thiab ua siab zoo, ua kom muaj zog. Yog li ntawd, nws yog qhov zoo dua los qhuas qhov kev rau siab. Ib tug menyuam yaus uas paub tias kev siv dag zog tseem ceeb dua li cov txiaj ntsig yuav pom nws yooj yim dua rau kev tiv thaiv kev ua tsis tiav thiab kev tsis lees paub hauv cov neeg laus."