9 nqe lus uas npau taws rau kev sib txuas lus

2024 Tus sau: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Kawg hloov kho: 2023-12-17 03:58

Ib qho kev xav tuaj yeem nthuav tawm ntau dua.

Kab lus no yog ib feem ntawm "" project. Hauv nws peb tham txog kev sib raug zoo nrog peb tus kheej thiab lwm tus. Yog tias lub ncauj lus nyob ze koj - qhia koj zaj dab neeg lossis kev xav hauv cov lus. Yuav tos!

1. Qhov no tsis zoo! Rov ua dua txhua yam

Tsis muaj leej twg nyiam hnyav, categorical thuam. Ua ntej, nws yog kev ntxhov siab: tus neeg tau ua ib yam dab tsi, tab sis nws txoj hauj lwm tsis txaus siab hlo li. Qhov thib ob, nws ua rau nws npau taws: tus neeg hais lus tsis tshua sim xaiv cov lus qhia kom qab zib rau cov ntsiav tshuaj, tsis muaj kev sib tham txaus, cem - thiab, tej zaum, tsis ncaj ncees. Thib peb, nws yog qhov tsis meej pem: nws tsis tuaj yeem nkag siab tias yuav ua li cas tam sim no thiab yuav ua li cas tiv nrog txoj haujlwm. Yog tias koj ua phem rau tus cwj pwm no, koj tuaj yeem poob ib tus neeg ua haujlwm zoo lossis cov npoj yaig.

Hauv kev ua haujlwm, tsis muaj qhov twg tsis muaj kev thuam, tab sis nws yog qhov zoo dua los ua lawv kom coj zoo thiab ua siab ntev, hauv daim ntawv tawm tswv yim. Qhov ntawd yog, nrhiav ib yam dab tsi los qhuas tus neeg, tom qab ntawd taw qhia cov ntsiab lus uas tsim nyog kho, thiab, thaum kawg, muab tsawg kawg yog ob peb lub tswv yim yuav ua li cas kom nws zoo dua.

Qhov twg zoo dua: "Kuv nyiam koj ua qhov pom kev rau cov ntawv sai sai. Tab sis nws zoo nkaus li tias daim duab zoo li tsis nrov thiab muaj yeeb yuj heev. Cia peb sim hloov font thiab tshem tawm qee yam ntawm cov ntsiab lus?"

2. Auj, kuv tsis nco qab lawm

Kev ua haujlwm tsis yog ib lub tsev kawm ntawv lawm, thiab cov npoj yaig lossis tus thawj coj tsis yog tus kws qhia ntawv uas sawv saum nws lub siab thiab xav kom muab cov ntawv ua tom tsev. Thaum txhua tus neeg ua haujlwm ntawm cov hom phiaj thiab cov hom phiaj, nws tau xav tias lub luag haujlwm thiab kev thov yuav raug saib xyuas los ntawm tib neeg. Yog li kev zam rau menyuam yaus tuaj yeem ua rau ntxhov siab heev. Tshwj xeeb tshaj yog tias ib tug neeg feem ntau siv txhua yam "tsis nco qab", "tsis muaj sijhawm", "overslept" thiab tsis txawm thov txim rau nws tus cwj pwm.

Tau kawg, tib neeg qhov tseem ceeb tsis tau muab tso tseg: txhua tus lub tswb moos qee zaum tawg lossis tsis nco qab. Tab sis nws yog qhov zoo dua kom paub tseeb tias qhov no tshwm sim tsawg dua, thiab tseem tsis txhob hnov qab thov kev zam txim thiab muab rau qee yam nyiaj pab rau koj qhov yuam kev.

Qhov twg zoo dua: "Thov zam txim rau kuv. Kuv paub tias koj nug kuv, tab sis kuv tsuas yog ya tawm ntawm kuv lub taub hau. Tam sim no kuv yuav ncua txhua yam thiab ua txoj haujlwm no. Zoo, kuv yuav piav qhia txhua yam rau tus neeg siv khoom kuv tus kheej."

3. Kuv mob me ntsis, tab sis txiav txim siab los xijpeem

Muaj ob hom neeg: ib tug neeg, tsis xis nyob, mus so mob, thiab ib tug heroically mus rau lub chaw ua hauj lwm, hnoos nrov nrov, sniffing thiab muab tshuaj rau lawv tus kheej. Ob lub chaw pw hav zoov no yog qhov tsis sib haum xeeb kiag li, thiab cov laj thawj vim li cas tib neeg xaiv qhov kev xaiv thib ob tuaj yeem suav tau ntev. Thiab qee tus ntawm lawv muaj kev hwm heev: tus thawj coj tsis cia nws mus so mob, nyiaj txiag xav tau tiag tiag, tus neeg ua haujlwm ib nrab hnub lossis raws li GPC daim ntawv cog lus. Tab sis yuav tsum yog li ntawd, tus neeg mob ua mob rau lwm tus, thiab tsis yog hauv kev ua haujlwm nkaus xwb, tab sis kuj tseem nyob hauv kev thauj mus los rau pej xeem ntawm txoj kev mus rau qhov chaw ua haujlwm.

Qhov twg zoo dua: nyob hauv tsev thiab kho. Los yog ua haujlwm nyob deb.

4. Ua phooj ywg, hloov kuv tag kis

Tsawg tus neeg xav ua haujlwm rau lwm tus, ua haujlwm ib hnub ntxiv, thiab rov npaj lawv cov sijhawm. Yog tias koj yuav tsum tau outsource ib co ntawm koj cov dej num rau ib tug npoj yaig los yog hais kom nws hloov pauv, koj yuav tsum thov txim rau qhov no. Thiab tib lub sij hawm piav qhia cov laj thawj rau qhov tshwm sim thiab muab qee yam rov qab los. Zoo, nws yog qhov zoo tshaj plaws los ceeb toom ua ntej thiab, feem ntau, sim faib lub sijhawm kom muaj peev xwm kom tsis txhob tshwm sim dua.

Qhov twg zoo dua: “Koj puas tuaj yeem coj kuv rau hnub Thursday tom ntej? Kuv tus tub muaj matinee hauv kindergarten, nws xav kom kuv tuaj. Kuv yuav ua hauj lwm rau koj nyob rau txhua hnub yooj yim. Thiab, ntawm chav kawm, kuv muaj chocolate bar."

5. Yog, ces kuv yuav ua nws

Qhov no kuj suav nrog ntau qhov kev hloov pauv ntawm lub ntsiab lus "hu tom qab", "Kuv tsis tau npaj teb tsis tau", "feem ntau, nws yuav npaj tau hauv ob lossis peb lub lis piam." Yog hais tias koj muab ib tug neeg ua hauj lwm los yog nug nws rau ib yam dab tsi, koj xav kom paub tseeb tias nws yuav ua kom tiav. Thiab tsis yog qee lub sijhawm tom qab, tab sis nyob rau hauv lub neej yav tom ntej. Yog li ntawd, cov lus cog tseg tsis meej thiab tsis muaj lub sijhawm meej meej tuaj yeem ua rau tsis txaus ntseeg: nws zoo li tus neeg tsis noj qhov teeb meem tiag. Yog li nws yog qhov zoo dua los qhia tam sim ntawd thaum twg txoj haujlwm yuav ua tiav.

Qhov twg zoo dua: “Lub luag haujlwm yog qhov tseeb. Kuv xav tau ib lub lim tiam rau qhov no, hnub Tuesday tom ntej kuv yuav xa ib daim ntawv npaj npaj rau koj."

6. Koj puas nco qab Luda hauv pem teb thib ob? Yog li, nws …

Tsis muaj dab tsi txaus ntshai txog kev hais lus ntxhi. Thiab tus uas hais tias nws tsis yog ib tug me ntsis lus xaiv yog yuav luag dag rau nws tus kheej thiab cov neeg nyob ib ncig ntawm nws. Lub siab xav ntxuav ib tus neeg cov pob txha yog ib feem ntawm peb qhov xwm txheej thiab ib feem ntawm kev sib raug zoo, tsis muaj kev tawm ntawm nws.

Tab sis ua ntej koj hais lus ntxhi, nws yog qhov zoo dua los xyuas kom meej tias tus interlocutor nyob rau tib lub wavelength nrog koj thiab hais tias koj cov kev sib tham tsis ua phem rau cov khoom hais lus ntxhi. Piv txwv li, koj tsis qhia tawm tej ntaub ntawv tus kheej, koj tsis ua rau koj lub koob npe nrov, koj tsis denigrate ib tug neeg nyob rau hauv lub qhov muag ntawm lwm tus neeg. Nws yog qhov zoo heev yog tias koj tsis tham txog ib tus neeg paub, tab sis ib tus neeg nyob deb - tus neeg muaj koob npe, tus kwv tij, tus txij nkawm qub.

7. Tau kawg, tsis muaj leej twg xav tau dab tsi

Thiab tseem "Koj tuaj yeem kwv yees koj tus kheej", "Ua yam koj xav tau", "Yog, yog, Kuv tsuas yog nyiam ua haujlwm tshaj sijhawm" thiab lwm yam hauv tib lub siab. Tag nrho cov kab lus no yog manifestation ntawm passive aggression. Qhov no yog ib hom kev tswj hwm, thaum ib tug neeg tsis hais ncaj qha txog nws txoj kev xav thiab kev thov, tab sis ntim lawv rau hauv ib lub hnab ntim khoom uas muaj kev sib raug zoo kom lwm tus xav tias txhaum thiab maj kho txhua yam.

Passive aggression tsis yog tsuas yog cov lus, tab sis kuj gestures: dov ob lub qhov muag, nyem, luag. Qhov kev tawm tsam no tsuas yog zoo rau ib yam nkaus xwb: ua rau kev sib raug zoo nrog lwm tus neeg. Tab sis hloov qhov xwm txheej, uas tsis haum, nws yuav tsis pab. Yog li nws yog qhov zoo dua los hais ncaj qha txog txhua yam koj tsis nyiam thiab qhia cov kev xaiv los kho nws. Tau kawg, nyob rau hauv daim ntawv yog (saib point 1).

Qhov twg zoo dua: "Nag hmo kuv hais kom koj muab cov kev xaiv rau lub koom haum koom tes, tab sis txog tam sim no tsis muaj leej twg xa dab tsi. Kuv xav pom ntau yam kev ua los ntawm koj. Nws nyuaj rau kuv txiav txim siab ib leeg, thiab qhov no siv tau rau peb txhua tus."

8. Cov npoj yaig, nrawm

Tsis muaj dab tsi zoo feem ntau ua raws li qhov pib. Nws txhais tau hais tias koj yuav tsum tso tseg tag nrho cov haujlwm tam sim no, ua haujlwm dhau sijhawm thiab ua tiav txhua yam nrawm.

Tsis tas li ntawd, qhov xwm txheej ceev feem ntau cuam tshuam nrog qhov tseeb tias ib tus neeg tsis tuaj yeem teem sijhawm lossis tsis tuaj yeem npaj ua haujlwm kom raug. Los ntawm qhov no, zoo li los ntawm lwm yam quab yuam majeure, tsis muaj leej twg raug pov hwm. Tab sis txawm li cas los xij, peb yuav tsum sim txo qhov xwm txheej kom tib neeg tsis txhob npau taws los npog lwm tus neeg lub shoals thiab ua hauj lwm hauv kev kub ntxhov.

Qhov twg zoo dua: Thov zam txim rau kuv, uas kuv yuav tsum cuam tshuam koj, tab sis peb muaj lub zog majeure thiab peb xav tau koj kev pab tiag tiag. Ces kuv mam li xaj pizza rau sawv daws, kuv cog lus.”

9. Ua nrog koj tus kheej. Nov yog koj txoj haujlwm

Kev ua haujlwm tsis txaus ntseeg yog, thawj zaug, tsis txaus siab, thiab thib ob, kev lees paub ntawm qhov tshwm sim tsis meej. Yog tias tus thawj tswj hwm, cov npoj yaig lossis cov neeg siv khoom tsis kam teb cov lus nug kom meej, tsis muab cov ntaub ntawv tsim nyog thiab hauv daim ntawv ntse xa lawv los txheeb nws ntawm lawv tus kheej, nws yog qhov xav tau heev kom npau taws. Tau kawg, yog tias nrhiav cov ntaub ntawv zoo tsis yog ib feem ntawm txoj haujlwm.

Yog li nws yuav zoo rau siv sijhawm me ntsis thiab qhia meej txog qhov teeb meem. Los yog raug qhia rau ib tug npoj yaig tias nws yuav tsum qhia kev ywj pheej.

Qhov twg zoo dua: “Yog lawm, muaj ntau cov lus nug ntawm qhov project no. Koj puas tuaj yeem sau ntawv rau tus neeg siv khoom thiab txheeb xyuas nws?"