Kev tsim txom hauv tsev hauv kev sib cais: yog vim li cas nws tshwm sim thiab yuav ua li cas thiaj cawm tau

2024 Tus sau: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Kawg hloov kho: 2023-12-17 03:58

Yuav ua li cas yog tias qhov xwm txheej cuam tshuam koj lub neej thiab kev noj qab haus huv, thiab yuav ua li cas tiv thaiv koj tus kheej yog tias koj tsis xav ua phem rau koj cov neeg koj hlub.

“Nyob rau hauv kev sib txuas nrog kev cais tawm, kuv tus txiv muaj kev ua phem rau kev ua phem. Nws ntaus kuv rau lwm hnub, tsuas yog sim kuv cov tshuaj tiv thaiv. Hnub no kuv thawb ob peb zaug. Kuv ntshai yuav muaj dab tsi tshwm sim tom ntej. Tam sim no nws nyob hauv tsev txhua lub sijhawm, thiab yog tias qhov no txuas ntxiv, ces kuv ntshai rau kuv txoj kev nyab xeeb thiab kuv cov menyuam. Thiab tsis muaj dab tsi npaj rau kuv tawm mus. Cov lus no tau xa tuaj rau kuv thaum Lub Peb Hlis 21 los ntawm ib tus neeg siv khoom ntawm peb qhov project. Alas, nws tsis tau ua tshwj xeeb.

Txhua txhua hnub peb tau txais cov lus tshiab los ntawm cov neeg uas ntsib teeb meem kev ua phem. Lub sijhawm ntawm kev cais tus kheej, uas yog, txij li nruab nrab Lub Peb Hlis 2020, cov kev thov no tau nce li ntawm 20%. Feem ntau, peb tab tom tham txog kev ua phem ntawm tus txiv lossis tus khub hauv kev sib raug zoo nrog tus poj niam lossis tus khub, tab sis muaj lwm yam xwm txheej. Piv txwv li, ib tug ntxhais raug ntaus los ntawm nws tus txiv ntxawm, lwm tus neeg raug tsim txom los ntawm nws tus tub xeeb ntxwv.

Tsis tsuas yog peb qhov project tau ntsib kev nce siab ntawm cov lus thov rau qhov teeb meem ntawm kev ua phem hauv tsev. Piv txwv li, cov chaw zov me nyuam "Anna" thiab "Kitezh" kuj hais tias, nyob rau hauv Russia, nyob rau hauv Lub peb hlis ntuj, tus naj npawb ntawm cov kev tsis txaus siab ntawm cov poj niam txog kev tsim txom hauv tsev thiab kev tsis sib haum xeeb txog kev nce ntawm cov neeg tsis txaus siab los ntawm 15-25% tau nce sharply. Hauv Suav teb thiab Brazil, kev kaw cia thoob ntiaj teb ua rau muaj kev kub ntxhov hauv tsev neeg tau tshaj tawm txog 50 feem pua nce hauv kev hu xov tooj. Coronavirus: Kev hu xov tooj los ntawm 30 feem pua rau cov xov tooj pabcuam kev ua phem hauv tsev hauv Cyprus yog 30% ntau dua los nrhiav kev pab. Hauv tebchaws Askiv, tub ceev xwm tso tawm Coronavirus (COVID-19): kev txhawb nqa rau cov neeg raug tsim txom hauv tsev, kev qhia tshwj xeeb rau cov neeg raug tsim txom hauv tsev thaum muaj kev sib kis, thiab koj tuaj yeem thov kev pab ntawm no yam tsis tau hais ib lo lus - los ntawm daim ntawv thov tshwj xeeb. Qhov hnyav ntawm qhov teeb meem ntawm kev ua phem hauv tsev thaum lub sijhawm txwv kev ntsuas yog qhov teeb meem thoob ntiaj teb thiab thoob ntiaj teb.

Vim li cas qhov no tshwm sim

Kev aggression nce ntxiv yog ib qho kev puas siab puas ntsws teb rau qhov xwm txheej txaus ntshai. Peb feem coob tsis tau txais txoj kev ua neej li niaj zaus, theem kev ntxhov siab loj tuaj, ib tus neeg poob haujlwm, peb txhua tus ntsib cov teeb meem tshiab thiab xav tau los daws cov teeb meem tshiab. Cov tib neeg nrhiav kev ua kom muaj lub tshuab nqus tsev uas tau tshwm sim los ntawm kev siv cawv - thiab nws feem ntau yog nyob rau hauv qhov xwm txheej ntawm kev ua phem hauv tsev uas nws muaj tam sim no ua rau muaj kev ua phem rau kev ua phem. Piv txwv li, ib tug ntawm cov poj niam uas tig mus rau qhov chaw pab qhia tias nrog kev qhia txog kev txwv tsis pub, nws tus tub laus, uas twb tau haus ntau zaus, pib haus cawv ntau zaus thiab pib coj cwj pwm phem dua.

Muaj ob qho laj thawj ntxiv rau kev nce kev ua phem hauv kev sib raug zoo, tshwj xeeb rau cov xwm txheej ntawm kev cais tus kheej.

Tatiana Loshchinina Psychologist ntawm Kev Paub Yuav Tsum Tsis Taug Kev Ua Phem Rau Poj Niam Txoj Haujlwm.

Ua ntej, peb feem ntau tsis xis nyob nrog tsuas yog ib lossis ob lub luag haujlwm sib raug zoo rau lub sijhawm ntev - tus poj niam, niam, menyuam, lossis tus txiv. Muaj los ntawm "overdose" ntawm kev xav uas muaj nyob hauv cov luag haujlwm no. Txawm tias 24/7 kev xav tuaj yeem nkees, cia nyob ib leeg ntawm kev sib raug zoo uas peb tau kho ntawm kev xav tsis zoo. Piv txwv li, kev sib raug zoo ntawm tus neeg ua phem thiab cov neeg raug mob tuaj yeem ua rau muaj kev xav phem heev.

Qhov thib ob, kev cais tus kheej tau tshem tawm peb lub peev xwm los daws teeb meem kev sib raug zoo los ntawm kev zam. Nws yog qhov nyuaj rau peb nyob deb ntawm peb tus kheej, nyob ib leeg nrog peb tus kheej, tso tawm chav, lossis cuam tshuam peb tus kheej los ntawm cov kev paub dhau los, piv txwv li, los ntawm kev hloov ib puag ncig.

Yuav ua li cas yog qhov xwm txheej raug hem nrog kev ua phem

Yuav kom ntsuas raws sijhawm kom ntseeg tau tias koj tus kheej muaj kev nyab xeeb, nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom paub txog qhov xwm txheej ntawm kev ua phem ua ntej nws yuav muaj kev phom sij heev.

Muaj ntau lub npe hu ua tus chij liab - lub tswb uas tuaj yeem ceeb toom tias kev sib raug zoo yog kev ua phem. Ceev faj yog tias koj tus khub:

• sim ua kom txoj kev loj hlob ntawm kev sib raug zoo yam tsis muaj kev sib koom siab (piv txwv li, insists ntawm kev sib deev intimacy tiv thaiv koj lub siab nyiam);
• qhia kev khib, xav tswj koj lub neej, nrhiav kev txwv koj cov neeg sab nraud;
• systematically hloov lub luag hauj lwm rau dab tsi tshwm sim (piv txwv li, nyob rau hauv cov xwm txheej ntawm kev tsis sib haum xeeb nws yeej tsis lees tias nws yog lawm, nyhav rau liam txhua leej txhua tus nyob ib ncig ntawm);
• feem ntau humiliates, qhia txog nws tus kheej superiority, nrog rau nyob rau hauv lub xub ntiag ntawm lwm tus neeg;
• nyob rau hauv tus cwj pwm ntawm tus cwj pwm txawv, nws coj destructively (them thiab lov tej yam, coj tawm aggression ntawm tsiaj, lwm tus neeg);
• tsis lees paub qhov kev xav thiab qhov tseeb uas tseem ceeb rau koj, ua rau koj tsis ntseeg koj tus kheej txaus (tus cwj pwm no hu ua gaslighting);
• koom nrog kev sib deev yam tsis muaj kev sib koom siab (los ntawm kev saib duab liab qab mus rau txhua hom kev yuam deev);
• chaw ua si rau me me ntawm kev ua phem rau lub cev (tuav tes lossis plaub hau, strangles, npog nws lub qhov ncauj nrog nws txhais tes, tuaj yeem thawb lossis npuaj).

Valentine

Kuv tus txiv yog ib tug tswv tsev. Nws pheej ua phem rau nws tus tub thiab kuv, ua phem rau peb ntawm lub cev. Tsis muaj lub zog los tiv thaiv cov kev thuam thiab kev txaj muag no ntxiv lawm, kom ntshai nws.

Yog tias koj pom qhov xwm txheej yog hem, lossis yog tias koj tau ntsib kev tsim txom lub cev thiab ntshai kev rov ua dua, cov kauj ruam yooj yim tab sis tseem ceeb hauv qab no yuav tsum tau ua.

Ua ntej, koj yuav tsum tau npaj ua ntej lub hnab ntawv ceeb toom nrog cov khoom tsim nyog kom sai sai tawm hauv tsev thaum muaj xwm txheej ceev: ua ntej ntawm tag nrho cov, cov ntaub ntawv, cov yuam sij seem, tshuaj, qee cov nyiaj, cov khoom ntiag tug.

Qhov thib ob, nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb uas yuav tsum muaj lub xov tooj them nrog koj ib txwm. Yog tias tus neeg ua phem txwv tsis pub koj lub peev xwm sib txuas lus, ces sim kom tau txais lub xov tooj ntawm tes thib ob, txawm tias qhov yooj yim tshaj plaws: muab tso rau hauv hom ntsiag to thiab nkaum hauv qhov chaw uas koj tsuas paub. Nws yog qhov zoo yog tias lub xov tooj yuav muab khaws cia rau hauv chav tsev uas kaw los ntawm sab hauv: piv txwv li, hauv chav dej lossis chav dej. Yog li thaum muaj xwm txheej, koj tuaj yeem nkaum ntawm tus neeg ua phem thiab hu rau tub ceev xwm.

Koj kuj yuav tsum sib tham nrog cov neeg koj hlub txog cov lus uas yuav txhais tau tias koj nyob rau hauv kev txaus ntshai. Nws tuaj yeem yog cov ntawv nruab nrab: yog tias tus neeg hlub hnov nws hauv xov tooj, pom nws hauv cov lus lossis hauv koj nplooj ntawv social network, ces nws yuav nkag siab tias koj xav tau kev pab. Yog tias ua tau, tham nrog koj cov neeg nyob ze tias thaum lawv hnov suab nrov tom qab phab ntsa, lawv yuav tsum hu rau tub ceev xwm.

Yog tias koj nkag siab tias kev ua phem tuaj yeem tshwm sim, mus pw hnav khaub ncaws yog tias ua tau thiab muab koj cov menyuam pw hauv lawv cov khaub ncaws.

Yuav ua li cas yog kev nruj kev tsiv twb tshwm sim lawm

Hmoov tsis zoo, kev cais tus kheej yog qhov txaus ntshai vim tias koj tuaj yeem raug daig hauv tib thaj chaw nrog tus neeg ua phem. Yog li ntawd, peb tseem yuav tham txog cov kauj ruam uas yuav tsum tau ua yog tias muaj kev kub ntxhov twb tau ua lawm.

Tatiana Push Social kws pab tswv yim ntawm qhov project "Kev paub yuav tsum tsis txhob ua phem rau poj niam txiv neej".

• Yog tias koj khiav tawm ntawm kev ua phem, tsis txhob khiav mus rau chav ua noj - qhov no yog qhov txaus ntshai dhau qhov chaw nyob rau hauv qhov xwm txheej txaus ntshai. Muaj ntau qhov stabbing, txiav, thiab lwm yam khoom uas tuaj yeem siv tawm tsam koj.
• Yog tias koj nkag siab tias qhov xwm txheej hem koj lub neej, sim ua txhua yam uas yuav cuam tshuam cov neeg ua phem thiab muab sijhawm rau koj kom dim ntawm qhov ntxiab: tawg lub vase, tso cov khoom hnyav, pib hu nkauj. Ua txhua yam nws yuav siv yog tias nws pab koj yeej ob peb feeb.
• Yog tias koj tsoo rau hauv qhov nkag, ces qw "Hlawv!" Qhov no yuav ua rau koj cov neeg zej zog nyiam thiab muab sijhawm rau koj kom tsis txhob muaj kev ywj pheej.
• Nco ntsoov tias thaum muaj kev kub ntxhov hauv tsev, koj tuaj yeem tawm hauv tsev txawm tias nyob ib leeg - qhov xwm txheej no yog kev hem thawj rau lub neej thiab kev noj qab haus huv. Koj muaj cai mus nrhiav kev kho mob, taug kev mus rau chaw nres tsheb tub ceev xwm thiab sau ib nqe lus.

Yog tias koj tau raug kev tsim txom los ntawm kev ua phem, nco ntsoov hu rau lub chaw kho mob thiab tub ceev xwm.

Thaum hu xov tooj rau tub ceev xwm, hu xov tooj rau qhov xwm txheej ncaj qha, tsis txhob siv euphemisms lossis lus me me: tsis yog "tso nws txhais tes" lossis "siv lub cev ua phem", tab sis "sib ntaus", "ntaus", "thaum tua" thiab lwm yam. Cov lus tuaj yeem txiav txim siab seb tub ceev xwm yuav ua li cas rau koj qhov kev thov rov hais dua: nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb uas nws yog qhov tseeb thiab piav qhia txog qhov uas poob rau hauv tsab xov xwm no.

Thaum koj tab tom tos tub ceev xwm thiab / lossis lub tsheb thauj neeg mob, hu rau koj cov phooj ywg, cov txheeb ze thiab thov kev pab: nrog koj mus rau qhov chaw nres tsheb lossis tsev kho mob, saib xyuas cov menyuam yaus, muab sijhawm rau koj mus nyob ib ntus hauv lwm qhov chaw.

Thaum lub tsheb thauj neeg mob lossis tub ceev xwm tuaj txog, sim ua kom koj lub siab nyiam - qhov no yog qhov tseem ceeb heev, vim tias qhov tshwm sim ntawm qhov xwm txheej feem ntau nyob ntawm seb koj qhov kev ua.

Yog tias koj raug mob lub cev, koj yuav tau mus rau tsev kho mob kom kuaj xyuas. Yog tias, raws li nws cov txiaj ntsig, koj raug pom zoo kom mus rau kev kho mob sab nraud (tsis tas mus pw hauv tsev kho mob), koj kuj yuav tsum tau mus rau nws: nyob ntawm qhov no, kev ua txhaum ntawm tus neeg ua phem yuav raug faib ua ntau txoj hauv kev yav tom ntej. Nco ntsoov khaws tag nrho cov ntaub ntawv kho mob, teem caij, daim ntawv sau tshuaj, daim ntawv txais nyiaj thiab cov ntaub ntawv zoo sib xws. Sau daim ntawv thov rau kev muab cov ntawv pov thawj ntawm cov ntaub ntawv uas tseem nyob hauv tsev kho mob (feem ntau yog daim npav kho mob) - lawv tseem yuav muaj txiaj ntsig zoo hauv tub ceev xwm thiab tsev hais plaub ua pov thawj.

Hauv tsev kho mob lossis chav xwm txheej ceev, nco ntsoov qhia raws li qhov xwm txheej twg koj raug mob, tus neeg raug ntaus raug mob, thaum twg thiab qhov twg.

Nws yog ib qho tsim nyog los qhia tag nrho cov kev raug mob ntawm lub cev, qhia tag nrho cov kev mob tshwm sim thiab kev tsis txaus siab, txawm tias kev ntaus, hauv koj lub tswv yim, tsis muaj ib qho twg.

Yog tias ua tau, piav qhia txog koj lub xeev puas siab puas ntsws - nws tseem yuav raug kaw rau hauv cov ntaub ntawv kho mob. Xyuas kom tus kws kho mob kom raug thiab piav qhia tag nrho cov kev raug mob thiab sau tag nrho cov lus tseeb. Tau txais daim ntawv pov thawj qhia tias koj tau thov rau lub chaw kho mob: nws yuav tsum muaj hnub tuaj ntsib, tus lej sau npe kho mob, tus kws kho mob lub npe, thwj cim.

Yog tias ua tau, thaij duab ntawm kev ntaus pob hauv lub xub ntiag ntawm ib lossis ob tus tim khawv. Sau cov cuab yeej siv tau siv los tua, hnub tim, lub sijhawm thiab qhov chaw ntawm kev tua, nrog rau cov npe thiab chaw nyob ntawm cov neeg tim khawv.

Olga

Lawv hu tub ceev xwm tam sim ntawd, tsev, qhov twg txhua yam tshwm sim. Peb tuaj txog sai. Kuv xav hais tam sim ntawd tias muaj qee qhov txo qis ntawm cov tub ceev xwm tub ceev xwm: txij li txhua hnub scandals feem ntau xaus rau kev sib haum xeeb, lawv tsis xav pib qhov teeb meem tiag tiag. Koj yuav tsum txiav txim siab tam sim rau koj tus kheej kom coj txhua yam mus rau qhov kawg thiab ua raws li txoj haujlwm no. Thiab nws tseem ceeb heev uas yuav tsum qhia rau tub ceev xwm paub tias koj mob hnyav. Cov nqe lus tau txais nyob rau ntawm qhov chaw thiab tau teeb tsa sai heev. Tus ex-tus txiv tau ntxuav tawm ua ntej tuaj txog ntawm ib pab tub rog, tau kawg, tab sis qhov no tsis yog qhov tseem ceeb heev rau kev xa daim ntawv thov. Koj yuav tsum hu rau tub ceev xwm tam sim ntawd, kom tsis txhob poob kev ntseeg siab thiab kom tub ceev xwm pom cov kev raug mob.

Kuv tam sim ntawd mus rau chav xwm txheej ceev, sau kuv cov kev raug mob. Hauv tsev kho mob, koj yuav tsum tau lees paub qhov tseeb ntawm kev ua phem, ces cov kws kho mob yuav xa cov ntaub ntawv mus rau tub ceev xwm. Hais ncaj qha lub npe ntawm qhov chaw nws nyob. Tom qab ntawd nws muab daim ntawv pov thawj ntawm lub tsev kho mob rau tub ceev xwm, thiab ntxiv rau rooj plaub. Tus tub ceev xwm hauv cheeb tsam tau sau ntau cov txheej txheem tshawb fawb, thiab tom qab ib hlis thiab ib nrab kuv raug hu mus rau lub tsev hais plaub rau kev sim.

Hmoov tsis zoo, cov lus nug ntawm seb nws puas tsim nyog hu rau tub ceev xwm thiab vim li cas nws thiaj li tsim nyog rau ntau yam tseem tsis paub meej. Cia peb txheeb xyuas nws kom ntxaws ntxiv.

Vim li cas thiab yuav tiv tauj tub ceev xwm li cas

Vim li cas ho hu rau tub ceev xwm

Hu rau tub ceev xwm yog qhov yuav tsum tau teb. Vim li cas? Ua ntej, txhua yam kev kub ntxhov yuav tsum ua rau muaj kev lav phib xaub. Qhov kev dag ntxias ntawm kev tsis lees paub ("Kuv tsis quav ntsej nws") yog qhov txaus ntshai heev uas ua rau peb txhais tes thiab tsuas yog ua rau muaj qhov xwm txheej hnyav dua.

Qhov thib ob, kev saib xyuas ntawm tub ceev xwm yuav cuam tshuam tus neeg aggression los ntawm kev caum tus neeg raug tsim txom, hloov lub hom phiaj ntawm nws txoj kev mloog mus rau lub luag haujlwm.

Thiab thaum kawg, kev nyab xeeb pib tag kis hnub no: kev tsim txom hauv tsev feem ntau tshwm sim, yog li kev kaw kev ntaus lossis lwm yam kev ua phem yog ib qho kev pov hwm rau yav tom ntej. Txhua tus kws tshaj lij ua haujlwm nrog qhov teeb meem ntawm kev ua phem yuav muab ntau dua ib qho piv txwv thaum muaj kev kub ntxhov uas tau siv ntau xyoo, tab sis tsis tau lees paub, tsis tsuas yog mus rau qhov tsis muaj txim, tab sis kuj coj mus rau qhov tseeb tias tus neeg ua phem tau yeej lub tsev hais plaub ntawm cov teeb meem ntawm cov khoom ntiag tug, kev saib xyuas menyuam yaus, kev tiv thaiv tus kheej, thiab lwm yam ….

Kev hu mus rau tub ceev xwm raws sij hawm yog ib kauj ruam tsim nyog los tiv thaiv qhov no.

Hmoov tsis zoo, qhov tseeb yog tias ntau tus neeg pom kev ceeb toom rau tub ceev xwm tsis muaj txiaj ntsig thiab tsis muaj txiaj ntsig. Piv txwv li, qhov tsis muaj kev rau txim txhaum cai rau thawj zaug ntawm kev ntaus ntaus feem ntau ua rau cov lus nug: yog vim li cas thiaj them nyiaj nplua los ntawm tsev neeg cov peev nyiaj? Tab sis nws tsis yog lub nra nyiaj txiag uas yog qhov tseem ceeb, tab sis qhov tseeb tias kev ntaus ntaus raug kaw, kev tsim ua ntej ntawm lub hauv paus uas tus neeg ua phem yuav raug rau txim rau lub sijhawm tom ntej nrog qhov hnyav ntawm txoj cai txhaum cai.

Yuav thov li cas

Raws li tau hais los saum no, yog tias koj tau ntsib kev raug ntaus, ua ntej ntawm tag nrho, nco ntsoov mus rau hauv tsev kho mob kom kho qhov tseeb no (txawm tias qhov tshwm sim ntawm lub cev, hauv koj lub tswv yim, tsis tseem ceeb). Los ntawm lub tsev kho mob, cov ntaub ntawv yuav raug xa mus rau tub ceev xwm, thiab lawv yuav tsis tuaj yeem tsis quav ntsej cov lus ceeb toom ntawm kev ua phem. Tsis tas li ntawd, cov ntaub ntawv kho mob yuav dhau los ua koj cov ntaub ntawv pov thawj hauv tsev hais plaub.

Koj tuaj yeem thov rau tub ceev xwm online, nws yuav raug txiav txim siab. Rau qhov no koj xav tau:

• mus rau lub vev xaib ntawm Ministry of Internal Affairs ntawm qhov chaw nyob (sau hauv lub tshuab tshawb nrhiav, piv txwv li, "Ministry of Internal Affairs Voronezh");
• mus rau ntu "Rau pej xeem" lossis zoo sib xws;
• qhib qhov "Reception of Requests" thiab siv lub function "Submit an appeal".

Muab tag nrho cov pov thawj muaj, xws li cov ntaub ntawv kho mob lossis cov lus pov thawj, rau hauv daim ntawv thov hluav taws xob.

Yog tias koj txiav txim siab mus rau tub ceev xwm chaw nres tsheb, yog tias ua tau, nug ib tus neeg nyob ze kom nrog koj mus. Thiab xyuas kom tseeb tias qhov kev thov rov hais dua tau sau npe rau hauv phau ntawv sau npe ntawm cov ntawv ceeb toom ntawm kev ua txhaum cai (CUSP), koj yuav tsum tau muab ib daim ntawv lees paub rau kev lees txais daim ntawv thov.

Yuav ua li cas yog tias daim ntawv thov tsis txais

Yog tias, vim li cas, lub tuam tsev tsis lees txais daim ntawv thov lossis tsis muab daim ntawv lees paub nkag, thov kom tus tub ceev xwm ntawm lub luag haujlwm qhia nws daim ID. Nco ntsoov sau tag nrho lub npe thiab lub npe ntawm tus neeg ua haujlwm, lub sijhawm koj tiv tauj. Tom ntej no, qhia rau peb paub tias koj npaj siab yuav rov hais dua nws qhov kev ua.

Tom qab ntawd, ncaj qha los ntawm lub tuam tsev, hu rau 112, tus xov tooj kub ntawm tus kws lij choj lub chaw ua haujlwm lossis pawg neeg soj ntsuam thiab qhia txog qhov ua txhaum cai. Koj tuaj yeem thov rau tus kws lij choj lub chaw haujlwm ntawm qhov chaw ntawm tub ceev xwm, uas tsis kam lees txais daim ntawv thov. Nws yog qhov zoo tshaj plaws thaum muaj cov pov thawj ntawm qhov tsis kam (yog li ntawd nws tsim nyog coj ib tug neeg los ntawm koj cov neeg koj hlub nrog koj) los yog qhov tsis kam muab kaw rau ntawm lub koob yees duab lossis dictaphone (koj tuaj yeem hais kom tub ceev xwm rov hais dua qhov tsis lees paub los ntawm kev qhib lub koob yees duab lossis dictaphone). kaw).

Tus kws lij choj lub chaw haujlwm yuav kuaj xyuas thiab tom qab qhov tseeb ntawm qhov tsis kam lees txais daim ntawv thov raug tsim, nws yuav siv cov kev ntsuas tsim nyog. Cov neeg ua haujlwm ua txhaum ntawm qhov kev txiav txim no yuav raug foob los ntawm Kev Txiav Txim ntawm Ministry of Internal Affairs ntawm Russia hnub tim 01.03.2012 N 140 "Rau kev pom zoo ntawm Kev Tswj Xyuas Cov Cai ntawm Ministry of Internal Affairs ntawm Lavxias Federation rau kev muab kev pabcuam pej xeem rau txais tos, sau npe thiab tso cai nyob rau hauv ib cheeb tsam ntawm lub Ministry ntawm Internal Affairs ntawm lub Lavxias teb sab Federation ntawm daim ntawv thov, cov lus thiab lwm yam ntaub ntawv hais txog kev ua txhaum cai, kev ua txhaum cai tswj, xwm txheej "rau kev qhuab qhia lub luag hauj lwm. Tsis tas li ntawd, nyob rau hauv tus kws lij choj lub chaw ua haujlwm, koj tuaj yeem xa daim ntawv thov nws tus kheej, uas koj raug tsis kam lees ntawm lub chaw nres tsheb tub ceev xwm.

Yuav ua li cas nrog koj tus kheej aggression

Kuv tus poj niam qub tau hais rau kuv txog nws. Kuv nyeem tsab xov xwm txog kev tsim txom thiab lees paub kuv tus kheej. Tam sim no kuv tab tom nrhiav ib tug hluas nkauj, thiab peb txiav txim siab nyob ua ke. Mam li nco dheev kuv yuav siv kev nruj kev tsiv tawm tsam nws thiab.” Peb kuj tau hu rau cov kev thov no, thiab qhov no yog qhov qub. Yog tias koj tab tom ntsib kev ua phem, tab sis tsis nyiam nws ua phem rau lwm tus, muaj qee cov lus qhia yooj yim. Cia peb xav txog lawv ntawm qhov piv txwv ntawm qhov xwm txheej thaum koj tab tom tos tus neeg hlub uas tau lig yam tsis tau ceeb toom, thiab pib ntxhov siab.

Anastasia Polyaeva Psychologist ntawm Kev Paub Yuav Tsum Ua Haujlwm Ua Phem Rau Poj Niam.

• Sim ua pa maj mam ua ntej. Ua pa tob tob thiab sim ua pa ntev dua li nqus pa. Hnov koj lub cev.
• Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom paub tias koj tab tom muaj kev xav li cas (kev npau taws, npau taws, ntshai, tsis muaj zog, kev ntxhov siab, khaus lossis lwm yam), thiab hais txog nws: "Kuv ntxhov siab thiab npau taws heev thaum koj nyob ntev dua 15 feeb yam tsis tau ceeb toom kuv txog. nws." …
• Paub txog qhov koj xav tias nyob rau theem ntawm lub cev (piv txwv li, lub puab tsaig yog nruj, nrig ntiv tes, ntshav rushes rau ntawm lub ntsej muag, lub plawv dhia ceev, ua tsis taus pa tsis sib xws), thiab qhia koj tus kheej txog qhov no: "Kuv hnov qhov nro hauv. kuv ob txhais caj npab thiab xub pwg."
• Paub txog dab tsi yog qhov ua rau muaj kev aggression, dab tsi nws taw qhia. Thiab hais tias: “Kuv yuav tsum tau tos thiab nkim sijhawm, thiab nws yog qhov zoo rau kuv. Qhov no yog kev ua txhaum ntawm kuv tus kheej ciam teb."
• Tom qab ntawd nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb los txiav txim siab seb koj xav ua dab tsi tam sim no (yuav, tsoo lub qhov rooj, ntaus koj lub nrig ntawm lub rooj) thiab qhov koj tab tom ua tiag tiag: "Kuv xav tawm mus yam tsis tos koj, lossis hais lus tsis zoo, tab sis peb txoj kev sib raug zoo rau kuv. Kuv nkag siab tias koj tsis tuaj yeem twv seb koj qhov kev lig kev mob hnyav npaum li cas rau kuv, yog li kuv qhia kuv cov kev paub rau koj."
• Thaum kawg, nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb los tsim koj qhov kev cia siab lossis kev xav, piv txwv li: "Kuv thov kom koj sim tsis txhob lig yam tsis ceeb toom." Txawm hais tias koj hais txhua yam no rau koj tus kheej xwb, nws yuav yooj yim dua rau koj, vim tias koj yuav tswj koj txoj kev ua phem, tsis yog nws koj.

Qhov kev pab tus kheej no los daws koj tus kheej kev ua phem tuaj yeem pab tau yog tias koj kam lees txais lub luag haujlwm thiab muaj lub siab xav tiv thaiv tus cwj pwm phem.

Cov lus pom zoo dav dav, uas muaj feem cuam tshuam rau ob qho tib si thaum lub sijhawm cais tus kheej, thiab lwm lub sijhawm, hauv txhua qhov xwm txheej - tsis txhob nyob twj ywm, thov kev pab. Peb qhov project, zoo li lwm cov haujlwm thiab cov koom haum, tseem muab kev pab dawb rau cov neeg xav tau. Cov lus qhia pub dawb rau kev puas siab puas ntsws lossis kev cai lij choj tuaj yeem tau txais hauv online, txawm tias nyob rau hauv hom ntawv. Saib xyuas koj tus kheej!