Yuav ua li cas kom tshem tau ntawm perfectionism thiab nres lub sij hawm

2024 Tus sau: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Kawg hloov kho: 2023-12-17 03:58

Perfectionism slows down koj qhov kev vam meej: selflessly ua hauj lwm me me, koj tsuas nkim sij hawm. Niaj hnub no peb tab tom tham txog yuav ua li cas kom nkag siab qhov tseem ceeb tiag tiag thiab pib mus rau kev vam meej nrog leaps thiab ciam teb.

Kev ntshai ntawm kev ua tsis tau zoo cuam tshuam rau kev ua haujlwm. Ntau tus neeg vam meej tau tso tseg rau kev ua tiav. Thiab qhov no tsis yog qhov xav tsis thoob: txhua hnub lawv yuav tsum tau txiav txim siab sai thiab tseem ceeb. Yog tias cov kws phais tau ua ib yam dab tsi nrog tsuas yog 100% tseeb, qhov ntxa ntawm lawv txhua tus yuav loj dua.

Xyoo 2010, cov ntawv sau "Ua tiav yog qhov zoo tshaj qhov zoo tshaj" tau tshwm sim ntawm phab ntsa ntawm Facebook lub hauv paus chaw haujlwm. Nws yog tsim los ceeb toom cov neeg ua haujlwm tias kev ua tiav yog kev puas tsuaj thiab tsis muaj txiaj ntsig.

Yuav ua li cas yog tias Facebook tsis tau tso tawm kom txog thaum nws "zoo meej"? Feem ntau, qhov social network no yuav tsis tau tshwm sim.

Perfectionism tuaj qhov twg?

Bob Pozen, tus sau phau ntawv, hauv thawj qhov kev qhuab qhia ntawm chav kawm tsim khoom tau nug cov tub ntxhais kawm yog tias lawv xav txog lawv tus kheej cov neeg ua haujlwm zoo. Feem ntau hais txog ib nrab ntawm cov tub ntxhais kawm teb hauv qhov kev lees paub thiab tham txog kev thov cov niam txiv lossis cov kws qhia ntawv uas tau hammered rau hauv lawv lub taub hau uas cov haujlwm yuav tsum ua tiav nrog qhov tseeb thiab raug.

Kuv ntseeg hais tias tib neeg tsis yog yug los ua neeg zoo tag nrho, tab sis tsev neeg, tsev kawm ntawv, ib puag ncig pab lawv nyob hauv txoj kev xav no. Thiab txij li qhov no yog tus cwj pwm, koj tuaj yeem tshem tau nws.

Bob Posen

Qhov teeb meem loj nrog cov neeg ua haujlwm zoo tshaj plaws yog tias lawv siv sijhawm ntau dhau ntawm cov haujlwm uas tsis tseem ceeb lossis tsis xav tau qhov zoo li no. Yog li ntawd, lawv tsis muaj sijhawm txaus: muaj ob peb teev hauv ib hnub ua haujlwm kom coj txhua yam mus rau qhov zoo.

Yuav ua li cas nrog perfectionism

Elizabeth Grace Saunders, tus sau phau ntawv, ua haujlwm ua tus kws pab tswv yim tswj lub sijhawm los pab tib neeg kom tshem tawm qhov xav tau kom ua tiav thiab pib nkim sijhawm rau tej yam uas tseem ceeb. Nws muaj ntau txoj hauv kev los tshem tawm kev ua kom zoo.

Tsis txhob dai daim ntawv lo

Es tsis txhob hu koj tus kheej ib tug perfectionist, hais tias koj "qee zaum yuav zoo li ib tug perfectionist." Yog li koj cia koj tus kheej ua tej yam txawv.

Paub tias perfectionism tau txais nyob rau hauv koj txoj kev

Tam sim no nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom paub tias los ntawm muab tag nrho koj tus kheej rau ib yam, koj tsis nco qab txog lwm qhov chaw uas yuav tsum tau saib xyuas koj. Piv txwv li, cov perfectionists qee zaum tsuas yog tsis ua qhov zoo lossis ua lawv lig dhau lawm, thiab qhov no txwv tsis pub lawv ua tiav. Yog tias lawv tau txo qhov bar tam sim ntawd, tej yam yuav txawv.

Txwv koj tus kheej

Tus kws tshaj lij yuav ua haujlwm rau ib txoj haujlwm kom txog thaum nws ua tiav qhov "zoo meej", txawm tias nws yuav siv sijhawm ntev npaum li cas. Yog li ntawd, Saunders qhia txog kev teem sijhawm.

Muab txhua txoj haujlwm rau qee lub sijhawm (nws yog qhov zoo dua yog tias nws yog ib nrab ntau npaum li niaj zaus) thiab saib koj qhov nrawm kom tau raws li lub sijhawm kawg.

Cov lus qhia no tau pab ntau tus neeg tau tshem ntawm kev ua tiav. Lawv pom tau hais tias tsis ua ib yam dab tsi zoo meej tsis tau txhais hais tias ua tub nkeeg thiab tsis quav ntsej txog cov txiaj ntsig ntawm txoj haujlwm. Koj tsuas yog saib koj cov peev nyiaj siv sijhawm thiab hais tias, "Okay, kuv tuaj yeem siv sijhawm ntev npaum li cas rau txoj haujlwm no kom tau txais txiaj ntsig zoo?"

Muab sijhawm nrog INO

Feem ntau, perfectionists tsuas tsis paub tias cov hauj lwm sib txawv yuav tsum tau siv sij hawm thiab siv zog sib txawv. Txhawm rau ua qhov tseem ceeb, Saunders pom zoo kom siv cov txheej txheem INO:

• Lub hom phiaj kev nqis peev: siab profitability, lub sij hawm siv yuav them tawm zoo nkauj.
• Cov hauj lwm nruab nrab: koj tau txais ntau npaum li koj nqis peev (piv txwv: kev sib ntsib nrog cov neeg ua haujlwm lossis cov ntawv tshaj tawm qauv).
• Ua haujlwm tau zoo: qhov tshwm sim tsis nyob ntawm lub sij hawm siv (piv txwv: parsing email).

Los ntawm kev faib cov haujlwm, koj yuav nkag siab tias qhov twg tsim nyog siv sijhawm ntau dua. Yog tias ua haujlwm nrog e-mail yog ib txoj haujlwm zoo, koj yuav tsum tsis txhob rov nyeem thiab sau tsab ntawv peb lossis plaub zaug: lub sijhawm no yuav muaj txiaj ntsig zoo rau cov xwm txheej los ntawm thawj pab pawg.

Nov yog qee cov lus nug tseem ceeb los pab koj txiav txim siab seb hom haujlwm twg yuav tsum tau muab faib ua:

1. Nws tseem ceeb rau kuv?
2. Yog muaj, pes tsawg?
3. Nws puas tsim nyog ua tiav txoj haujlwm ntawm qib siab, thiab tsis yog nws yuav ua li cas? Kev siv zog puas yuav them?
4. Yam tsawg kawg ntawm kev nqis tes ua yog dab tsi?
5. Kuv muaj sijhawm npaum li cas rau txoj haujlwm no?