Txhawm rau kom muaj kev sib raug zoo, kawm los puag hloov

2024 Tus sau: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Kawg hloov kho: 2023-12-17 03:58

Feem ntau, yog vim li cas rau kev sib cav sib ceg thiab kev sib cais yog kev hloov ntawm tus cwj pwm lossis tus cwj pwm ntawm cov neeg koom tes. Tab sis kev hloov pauv yog yam tsis muaj kev zam, koj tsuas yog yuav tsum kawm kom txais lawv.

Kev hloov hauv ib tus neeg hlub feem ntau ua rau tsis lees paub thiab sib cav. Tab sis nyob rau hauv ib qho kev sib raug zoo mus sij hawm ntev, ob tus neeg koom tes hloov pauv sai lossis tom qab. Tus neeg koj ib zaug poob rau hauv kev hlub nrog yuav inevitably tig mus ua ib tug tshiab, thiab tsis tas yuav ntse thiab zoo dua. Yuav luag txhua tus ntawm peb mus los ntawm cov neeg nce toj mus rau cov qos yaj ywm couch, los ntawm cov neeg ntxeev siab mus rau cov thawj coj hauv nruab nrab, los ntawm kev xav txog poj niam txiv neej mus rau obsessed pw tsaug zog. Qee zaum cov kev hloov no ua rau tib neeg xav tias ntxeev siab.

Thaum ib tug neeg hlub tsis ua raws li peb qhov kev cia siab, nws zoo li peb tias nws tau ua txhaum daim ntawv cog lus.

Psychologists xav tsis thoob vim li cas qhov no tshwm sim. Nyob rau hauv lawv lub tswv yim, qhov teeb meem yuav tsis yog nyob rau hauv cov kev hloov ntawm lawv tus kheej, tab sis nyob rau hauv peb lub siab nyiam xws li ib tug yuam kev ntawm kev xaav raws li qhov illusion ntawm qhov kawg ntawm keeb kwm.

Daniel Gilbert, tus xibfwb ntawm kev puas siab puas ntsws ntawm Harvard University tau hais tias "Tib neeg yog cov tsiaj hloov zuj zus uas ntseeg yuam kev tias lawv tsim tau tiav," said Daniel Gilbert, tus xibfwb ntawm kev puas siab puas ntsws ntawm Harvard University, thaum nws tham TED. - Tus neeg uas koj nyob tam sim no yog ib yam nkaus li lub dav hlau, dav hlau thiab fickle, zoo li txhua tus neeg koj tau ua dhau los. Tib yam uas nyob tas mus li hauv peb lub neej yog hloov pauv."

Xyoo 2013, Gilbert thiab nws cov npoj yaig tau ua kev tshawb fawb. Txhua tus neeg koom nrog (lawv cov hnub nyoog sib txawv ntawm 18 txog 68 xyoo) tau sau tseg tias dhau 10 xyoo lawv tau hloov ntau dua li qhov xav tau.

Thiab yog tias peb tseem tuaj yeem hloov kho rau qhov kev hloov pauv hauv peb tus kheej, ces nws nyuaj dua los ua raws li cov kev hloov pauv hauv tus neeg hlub.

Ntxiv mus, peb muaj kev xav zoo sib xws tsis yog vim kev hloov ntawm tib neeg, tab sis kuj yog vim muaj kev hloov pauv ntawm qee yam khoom lossis qhov chaw. Piv txwv li, zoo li ntau lub nroog uas lawv loj hlob tsis zoo ib yam ntxiv lawm: tag nrho cov neeg zoo tau tawm mus, thiab cov khw muag khoom tau kaw. Nws yog qhov xav paub tias peb tuaj yeem hais qhov no ntawm tib qhov chaw, tsis pom zoo tsuas yog tias cov "cov neeg zoo" no yog leej twg thiab "cov khw muag khoom muag" lawv yog dab tsi.

Ntev mus rau yav dhau los, uas ua rau peb tsis nyiam kev hloov pauv, yog ib qho kev xav ntawm tib neeg.

Txhawm rau kom muaj kev zoo siab nrog koj tus txij nkawm ib txwm, koj yuav tsum kawm yuav ua li cas thiaj zoo siab nrog ntau tus neeg ntawd. Ntau tus neeg uas tau nyob nrog lawv ib nrab rau ntau xyoo lawm hais tias: "Kuv tau muaj tsawg kawg yog peb txoj kev sib yuav, thiab tag nrho nrog tib neeg."

Tej zaum txoj kev ncaj ncees tshaj plaws hauv qhov no tsis yog los tawm tsam kev hloov pauv, tab sis cia nws tshwm sim. Cov tshuaj tiv thaiv zoo li no yuav cawm tau hauv txhua qhov xwm txheej thaum tus neeg hlub tau hloov pauv ntau dhau lossis, hloov pauv, tsawg dhau. Tsis txhob hnov qab: txawm tias koj xav hloov lossis tsis xav, dhau sijhawm, lawv tseem yuav tshwm sim.